Attitude and whining

Im here for the responses only because we have the same issue with our 4 year old.

Yup! Same boat! I just let her get over it and ignore it. Until she’s ready to talk about it 😭

I noticed it is usually due to hunger or being tired. However, it can often be them just needing connection time. Give them a hug and do an activity together (get on the floor and play).

Oh my goodness! 4yr olds have soooo many big emotions they’re trying to figure out. What’s helped us is staying calm (even though it’s hard! 😮‍💨 ) and saying things like.... "Are you feeling upset?" so they feel heard. & sticking to routines. and giving them small choices like "do you want to clean up now or in 5 minutes?" can also help. You’ve got this mama! 🤍

Do you have any younger children? Ours went through this when she felt I was giving more attention to our younger child.

If it persists and they seem to be in constant flight or fright and you think it is sensory related, I would look into an Occupational Therapist that tests for retained primitive reflexes so they can be integrated.

Offer her a taco . Idk it works for me , my daughter’s only 10 months so not there YET! ❤️ sending u love

My daughter is 4.5 years old and for the past 3 weeks she’s been exactly like this. At first I thought she was getting sick but nope she’s just fine so I figured she’s going through some emotional development.She tries to get stuff through crying and whining and I try not to give in. I try to set boundaries as much as I can. When she gets dramatic , sometimes I ignore, sometimes I hug her, it all depends on how I feel. I wish I’d have the answer on how to deal with it. I know one thing for sure, we have to stay strong during this time and try to stay calm as much as possible but also set boundaries and don’t let them get what they want with whining. This time will pass one day and I think it’s just a preparation for teenage years😩😅🥰

Behavioral issues is often linked to an underlying condition in the area of developmental disorders and/or mental health disorders. I would recommend starting off with getting referrals into those two areas for medical. I personally highly recommend children’s hospital as they are amazing. They can even get you as a parent linked to resources as well as your daughter. One of the best parental resources they have is a group class through a clinic that teaches the parenting method called Unstuck and on Target. Getting early intervention and gaining access to resources (parent & child) is really beneficial.

4 is a whole lot. Connection and snacks usually help.

And i also feel like she’s at a stage of not being able to recognize her emotions/feelings… (sleepy, hunger, etc.) She’ll tell me she’s hungry 5x in a row. But i can tell she’s really sleepy instead and needs to lay down…

@Samantha things like what the OP posted about are completely natural for children to go through. All kids go through developmental leaps and it can cause a lot of extra emotions for a little while. Most kids act this way also to push a little bit to see what boundaries there are. Boundaries make children feel secure and so if those are set, over time the behavior settles. 4 is a big year for children, especially girls, where they are really starting to understand the world a little more and in a different way and they push their boundaries a little extra. Please don’t tell people that the things their child is going through that are completely normal and very common are reason to believe their child has mental health issues.

@Rowan yes! But he’s almost 2 so they’ve been at this for a min? It’s very dependent

@Anja this is so helpful but it makes me feel better. I hate using the word dramatic but sometimes it’s just like wow let’s chill. Same I try to do everything. Have you seen success with conversation about the attitude?

Yeah same I get frustrated and don't know what to do so I could use advice as well 🙃