Gender disappointment

I am trying to stay positive however, we found out we are having a baby boy and I am absolutely gutted. I’m so done with being pregnant and I am starting to regret it completely. I feel terrible about it but I just don’t know how to change my mindset. I’m also terrified that I’m going to end up with post natal depression because of it. This will be our only child. Anyone else felt the same and actually become excited or happy?

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In the most nicest way, you should feel terrible. Some people can’t have children, but you’re upset it’s a boy?? Be happy you was able to have a child

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a preference of what you want, I would love a boy however, regardless of what I'm having I'll be very happy! I think your mindset will change as soon as they get here and it won't matter anymore. Time will change your mindset and those feelings will disappear. Try not to overthink it too much! Congrats on your boy!

Just speaking from my personal experience as an IVF mama, I tried for 6 years to get my first baby. Please don’t let anyone tell ‘you’re lucky to be pregnant’ Gender disappointment is a real feeling and if you let anyone shame you for feeling this way it will only make things worse! My first was a baby boy and although I was over the moon to be pregnant, my heart still ached for a girl. Purely because I’m so close to my mum. All I can say is once your baby is born the love you’ll feel for them is unlike anything you’ll ever feel. There’s nobody else you’d die for in a heartbeat. I promise the feeling will get better and your pregnancy will be worth it. I wouldn’t change my baby boy for anything now he’s absolutely the best thing that ever happened to me. Xxx

You shouldn’t feel terrible! Gender disappointment is real! But you do come round and love that child the same. I’m on my 3rd and I really wanted a girl and was disappointed it was a boy I cried a lot even before we found out because this is supposed to be our last baby. I long for a little girl. But I got over it and now I’m happy about having another boy and thinking of names and our future x

the first comment from michelle is absolutely disgusting ngl. I want you to know, gender disappointment is REAL. Yes we should be happy we can get pregnant and have a baby etc, but everyone has a preference, it’s human and natural! I have a little boy who is 3, and i find out the gender of this one on the 10th December. I’m not gonna lie, i will cry if it’s a boy. i already have a feeling it is, as males determine the sex and my partner has no females in his family so it’s highly likely to be a boy, but i’ll still be disappointed. however, i cried with my first when i found out he was a boy, and yet i love him more than i could ever have imagined and i can’t imagine my life being any other way now, and i know that with this one i will get over the initial disappointment and be over the moon either way. Don’t beat yourself up for being disappointed, it’s entirely allowed but remember this feeling won’t last forever ❤️