The reason: I was triggered, he cheated on me a year ago with his BM..
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yh that would upset me! fair enough if it was his only experience with the situation then yes draw on past experience within your debate - still a big NO NO to the ‘my girl’ - but if you’ve literally experienced it together it would feel hurtful to me that he never once spoke about our experience with it xx
Sounds like there's something unresolved there
@Favi 🐄💕 Most definitely! You’re 100 percent correct, but I still feel like he could have acknowledged what I went through but just her you know. Him and I went through that as well no matter which was worse. I still went through that you know, But I only brung up him calling her that. I didn’t say anything about the miscarriage.
@Ellie-May it definitely upset me but I didn’t even mention it. I still haven’t. I just realized like wow he didn’t even have the respect for our loss to talk about it but all he could do is support his loss with her… okay. I guess I feel like if I bring it up I’m comparing or seeming like a child saying “talk about me or pick me” you know. He so called accidentally called her “my girl” so he says and he thinks I overreacted about that because I know I’m his girl… that’s not the point, how do you slip up and call someone you haven’t been with in 7 years that lol CRAZY!
Maybe he respected you and your situation enough to not use your loss in a debate...? Just a thought, it might've been easier to use his experience with his ex as it was 7 years ago and he might've not wanted to risk mentioning your loss in case it upset you. Also missed the fact he cheated, I'd be more concerned about that than him calling someone 'my girl' personally.
You think he possibly didn't want to ask you about it cuz you were so devastated?
@Favi 🐄💕 idk maybe but if that’s the case he never talks about it. He only ever describes his past when on topic of what was discussed. So maybe, it might be. I felt most triggered because him calling her that.
@Alex Maybe So, you and the other young lady has a valid point. I was thinking the same… but yes he did cheat with her last year but I forgave him and I’ve been trying my hardest to move on and not let that be how I see him as who he is… he has been proving himself, I just get triggered and go into a rage about things
What do you get triggered about? Things like this? Cuz if so you're right to get triggered Thinking about it, I think it's kind of weird to bring up personal stuff like a miscarriage in an argument. Maybe my husband is much more private but I know he would never ever bring up my personal grievances like that out there to prove a point. So that could be a good or bad thing for you Why aren't they together anymore? Is it her choice or his?
@Favi 🐄💕 Yeah I get triggered about things like this, I’ve been triggered about how he acts like he doesn’t like to communicate with her around me but definitely does when he isn’t around me. That’s weird to me, his argument is he doesn’t always have to answer the phone for her. Smh… but when you put it like that yes that is weird, thank you for calming my mind a little. He could just be respecting me by not talking about it. We haven’t talked about it since it happened so I probably just triggered myself because he did leave me while I was going through the miscarriage so I have some resentment there. Girl everything is messed up. They aren’t together anymore because he broke up with her, she kept cheating and doing other foul things.
Two days ago I got into an argument with my bf because he called me while he was with his friend because he wanted my opinions on a debate about abortions and miscarriages but during that debate all he could do to prove his point is talk about how and what he went through during a loss with his Ex from 7 yrs ago. During the debate he only talked about his experience with her and how she could have died. He even messed up and called her “My Girl” when he’s been with me two years now AND I HAD A WHOLE MISCARRIAGE MYSELF LAST YEAR but not once did he acknowledge my loss!