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Tbh I allowed gifts but I said to not give them on the actual day so whoever wanted to buy something, they could do that and then just bring it to her and give it. In regards of celebrating, you can just say that it’s not something you want to teach your children as Islam doesn’t teach us that. There will be people who might feel entitled and will get offended no matter what you do or say but you should always do what you think is best for your kids regardless of others’ feelings. We didn’t celebrate my daughters first birthday but we made a really big deal out of her first Eid, we did slip up with her second and gave her gifts on her Actual birthday but definitely will not be doing that again and just will carry on just doing big eid parties instead.
@Shahina what if they buy them birthday gifts what do u do?
We don’t celebrate birthdays but we’re having a small dinner with close family and friends.
So I grew up in a family that did. We didn’t go all out but like my parents would cook your favorite meal and we’d get cake lol that’s about it. But my husband it’s a big no for birthdays. He actually doesn’t like to even say happy birthday. My son’s 2nd birthday is coming up I want to get him a small cake but beyond that I don’t think we’ll do anything. Gift wise. My parents have given gifts to me and my son for our birthdays. We accept it.
We reminded family&friends we didn't celebrate birthdays whenever it was mentioned and if they did buy presents we would tell them to give it any other day. Generally my family have bought gifts randomly for my daughter like clothes, so we treated any gifts like a random gift rather than a birthday gift. We also put emphasis on either saving the gift for Eid but sometimes I guess family really can't help it! We do our best and do what feels right. Try not to upset anyone without compromising your religion. I always try to go by that saying, "start as you mean to go". If you put your efforts in from the beginning, it will see you through into the future. My husband and I really don't want to confuse our children Inn Shaa Allah so we agreed not to celebrate it. It really helps when you're both on the same page.
We don't celebrate birthdays, we avoid going to family members home on the birthday of our little girl or if it's their birthday. After the first few birthdays, they understood. There was a lot of persistence to go over "just for food", but if you stand your ground, it does get easier!