Should I be jealous?

This is not an acceptable joke for me. Especially when you are pregnant.

Yeah there’s no way a best friend should be making a joke like that at all

Shouldn’t be jealous but it’s def not appropriate and I wouldn’t bring her around anymore. Unless you think she will stop joking like that 👀.

Yea I would watch out cause wtf kind of a joke is that

Females are just weird. What kind of sense of humor is that.

I really feel bad for people who are saying g this is inappropriate. They clearly haven’t had a true best friend they trust and love.

@Helen exactly! Me and my best friend make jokes like this all the time but know nothing would come from it because it's just jokes.

I’m not sure I would have taken this in a way of romantic interest, but more just getting on like a house on fire and genuinely really liking him. That’s just me though. Only you know your friend

I think if you know she is joking that take it at face value. But honestly either way with all relationships including friendships you have to trust the person. No trust there shouldn’t be a friendship. But that’s just me.

i get that there are people with certain types of humor but for me personally bc of past situations if a friend said that to me i would be upset. there are many wonderful women in the world who have good intentions and then there are plenty of disgusting women who act like trash and its seemingly always the ones close to us not the random ones

I’d just talk to her privately and let her know it made you a bit uncomfortable. It’s totally ok to set new boundaries even when it’s an old friendship. You also have to think with your family in mind now, don’t feel guilty about that ♥️

Sounds like that's just her humour and you know that. Sounds entirely like a well meaning joke.

Trust your guts… personally every time I don’t trust my guts, I always regretted it !

This wouldn't be acceptable for me or my man even if everyone is different we draw the line and set firm boundaries but best wishes 🙏🏻

this is a tricky one I feel like if you’re thinking this let alone writing this you obviously don’t fully trust your best friend , whether that be reasonable distrust or not , it’s distrust and I would want to fully trust the person I call mt best friend

I genuinely wouldn't care but then me, my partner and one of his close friends have a running joke that she's going to steal me so 🤷🏻‍♀️ We know it's just a joke.

@Elizabeth me too , and even with my husband we have these types of jokes , my best friend is my soul mate and have 100% trust in each other especially around my husband xx

Yeh that’s a flipping weird thing to say????

@Helen hahaha it's not my husband I'm worried about her being around 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but we know it's just jokes and nothing serious will come from it despite our past together and know it comes out of places of absolute love!

Depends on the person. I don’t understand the comment honestly. Seems like maybe they’re naive and don’t understand reasonable boundaries around people who are together…

I wouldn’t find an issue with this at all

It would definitely be in the back of my mind too, I remember a good friend saying to me, if you don’t want him I’ll have him and just that made me wary. It’s a funny one isn’t it x

@Helen This is the thing, it could just be her sense of humour because she is just like that, but I also know she's felt quite low and isolated whilst out of the country and this is probably the first new person she's made a proper connection with in years. The only other person she's clicked like that with has been myself.

Ooh I’m not sure! A comment like that would probably rub me the wrong way… not the best thing to say to a hormonal pregnant woman who’s already got lots of worries/concerns

@Chloe That's another thing! Maybe I'm just being hormonal and overthinking it, idk

If it’s her sense of humour then I’d take it with a pinch of salt! Some people are more sensitive though because I made a joke once about organising my friends hen do with one of her other friends saying we’ll be besties now (totally innocently) and she took it the wrong way and got mad! Obviously if she actually flirts etc it’s different but yeah I wouldn’t worry too much x

I had a “friend” like that 😂 she’s almost ruined my relationship on multiple occasions. Mostly with lies. Not even to me or him, she made out to mutual friends that they were way closer than they were and yeh neither of us have contact with her anymore. I wouldn’t say you should be jealous if you trust your partner but I do think you should keep an eye on it

As long as you trust HIM, that's all that matters here!

Maybe you’re insecure rn bc you’re pregnant. I don’t see anything she said as threatening. If that’s your best friend and your partner I think maybe some trust is lacking if the thought of them being good friends makes you uncomfortable.

@Sarah exactly this. She isn’t after your man just cause they got on and she made a joke about it.

Though I guess she could have and should have phrased it as “I’m gonna be your guys third wheel from now on”, but like others have said, if you trust your friend and partner, there’s nothing to stress about

I went through this with my ex. He cheated on me with my best friend. I introduced them to each other and then they had about a year long affair before I finally broke up with him. They posted their anniversary as August 2016. I broke up with him June 2017. So I wouldn’t take it as a joke, but that’s me and my own history with this issue.

I would distance my self from her to be honest Even if you trust them both .. .. really there is not such a thing as best friend ..

I would never say that to my best friend in the context of getting on well with her partner. I get on well with many couples but the couple as a whole. Would never want to hang out with any of my friends’ partners without my friend! If your friend isn’t in a serious relationship herself she might not understand that this is inappropriate. If you feel like you can you could tell her it made you uncomfortable. But if not then maybe just hang out with her alone not with your partner there

@Lucy Sundin ouch, sorry they did that to you. What a pair of assholes!!

Sorry but keep her away from your family. She can be your friend, that’s fine but do not bring her around your husband. It all starts with an innocent joke lol there’s plenty of crazy stories out there. Trust me, you will thank me later

If she’s hitting on him, she isn’t your best friend. If the comment was more about them being besties and you being the extra, it’s just silly. Read the room. You already know the answer.

@Lucy Sundin I'm sorry to hear you went through that, that's awful 😔

I honestly don’t think a ton about it anymore. I have moved on to someone a lot better and put it in the past. It was a rough time when it happened though.

@Haley 💚 I'm perfectly happy with them being good friends, I knew they'd get on well before they met, I was hoping they would as they're two of the closest people in my life, I just couldn't be sure if there's anymore to it on her side.

🙄. That is not a joke. Her kitty must be on fire for him. That's just inappropriate! I'm hoping I'm wrong.

No don’t be jealous! Never let another woman cast doubt over your husband (finacé) he’s already yours and as long as you trust him he’s always going to be yours… in regards to your beast friend keep eyes on her 👀 that’s not a funny joke to me. But I’m crazy and territorial about my man so 🤷🏾‍♀️🤣🤣🤣

I honestly don’t think it’s that deep if you know and trust your people. If not, neither of them should be in your life. Personally I read it as trying hard to please/get in with you after being away/feeling lonely.

I would maybe say god that was a bit weird wasn’t it? And if she says noooo it’s just a jokeeee I’d just say oh great joke for your 35 week pregnant best friend 🤔 like I’m already going to be third wheeling when we have this baby so best get in line! Xx

I’ll be watching her very closely if I was you

That’s a really bad taste of a joke!

@Carmen yup! Definitely!

You're 35 weeks pregnant.....you're very emotional and sensitive which is indeed normal; also you have known her for 15 yrs. By now you should know how she kinda operates right?? You know her sense of humor and personality to a certain extent. But I'm also a firm believer of I don't put anything past anyone. Trust but verify 👌🏾♥️💯 always. Even though you've know her for years. Folk change and evolve daily ❤️👌🏾

@Helen nothing to feel bad about, I have a bestfriend who I trust with my life, she’s my sons godmother but she would never say some shit like this especially meeting my man for the first time she knows I trust her but she also knows I wouldn’t find it funny nor would she vice versa and my man wouldn’t even laugh at that nor would he like the joke. I feel like it depends on the people.

My husband and my best friend on a room together- they just rip into me. They have the same sense of humour and are basically male/female versions of each other. I trust my husband and my best friend so I don’t think you should be. Neither of them would want to hurt you. But I understand why you would 😊