Tantrum

My son turns 2 in January, for the moms who’s kids is 3 +:when do the constant tantrums begin to die down , i know crying and emotional disregulation happens in all kids but when does the crying and throwing themselves out over nothing stop?

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We just turned three and it's drastically gotten worse.

3 1/2 here and they are just starting to get less frequent

Just over 3 now and my goodness, it is wild over here. They are worse, harder to calm him down and he is stronger.

I keep hearing the term “threenager” 😩

I’m not quite to that stage yet as my daughter turns 2 tomorrow but she is just starting to throw herself on the floor and physically aggressive and screaming when she is in a tantrum mode. I have found redirecting her is the best help. As far as them getting worse I think the most I’ve learned so far is first and foremost regulating our own emotions and staying calm and model the behavior we want to see. I saw a video of a lady that helps with parenting and said when her kids had a tantrum she didn’t make eye contact and just quietly waited. Didn’t lecture didn’t try to force it just waited… and soon as she saw the kid regulating themself she would ask if they were done, if not she would continue to wait and withdraw certain attention and if so she said she would change activity like let’s go do a puzzle or do you wanna read a book? And completelely move on . She said kids don’t understand lectures but redirecting is the best way to move on.. hope this helps.

I know it’s sooo much easier said than done but over time awareness and practice we can all get thru this!!! lol

I just realized you said your kid is almost 2 as well. I’m looking into conscious parenting. It’s similar to gentle parenting but with a more direct approach to our own self reflection and regulating ourselves thru the process.

My son is 2 and he now throwing tantrum and hitting and throwing things, he only throw him self ever when we leave from somewhere he likes for example we left the zoo and he was kicking screaming in the car but other then that he doesn’t he just hits and whinny mostly he just punch my leg or arm but he always crying screaming when things aren’t his way. I’m hoping this just the terrible two ways cuz I’m not ready if it gets worse

yes that helps and I’ve seen the guides and advice for how to handle them it’s just hard applying that in every situation , out at the grocery store , when you pressed for time or like situations where it’s not possible to even stop for that like driving on a freeway so yeah I’m trying my best tho

and yes I’m getting back in to meditation as well self regulating

I definitely agree. It’s way easier said than done.

Haha. Yikes. My girl is 19 months. I’m scared now lol

Wait for the fournado! 🙈

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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