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On couples looking for unicorns
Does this weird anyone else out? I encountered this quite a bit while single as a woman who loves women. I am a little judge mental but I also genuinely want to know how many ppl are ok with this arrangement. The part I don’t like is when a couple is searching specifically for a single woman but wants that woman to not date anyone else. The power dynamic would rub me the wrong way entirely because you both have a commitment and are each others priority let’s face it so what does the third person get out of this? Anyone been that “third” who could enlighten me on this I am genuinely curious as to what you get out of this
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Yes this!! I think you explained it well
It weirds me out. Cuz there is an imbalance of power. Idk how it can’t be hierarchical because of the history and already set expectations and roles within the couple dynamics. And a lot of the time it’s giving objectification and lacks respect to wlw relationships. And then there are those that want them to fix the relationship and they don’t even acknowledge the toxic heteronormative aspects they are bringing into a queer relationship that they haven’t even begun to unpack. And it’s also seems very centering to men which is yuck. Like I had a friend who wanted a gf but also didn’t want to lose her man so she wanted a girl to share with him just so he doesn’t find another girl like she did. So yeah… there’s so much to it