So sad..thank you for your insight
Is it legal? Yes. Do you have to listen or the guest? Absolutely, not. He is just being controlling any way possible.
@Lauren thank you this is reassuring. I guess you answered my real question which is..is it illegal for me to allow this personal to visit after he communicated he is against it. I believe he can only legally remove this person for a legitimate reason, not just based on his feelings.
If you still live in the same home as your spouse then I would say yes they have a right to refuse a guest from visiting.