Problems in preschool

My lo started preschool in April and started off really well for the first few months, but as times gone on we’re experiencing issues with his behaviour there to the point I’ve had to make the decision to drop a day so he now only does 2 mornings.. They had concerns about his speech and communication causing potential barriers but things have escalated, he goes through stages of being destructive throwing things, chairs, toys. He’s been grabbing and even biting which was a new one the other day. I was told yesterday children are afraid of him.. I am completely mortified about the whole situation, he is not like this at home and has a 6 month old sister that he adores. He can push boundaries and act up but never hurts us on purpose. His vocabulary is brilliant and I don’t struggle to communicate with him at home. They say that he doesn’t ever seem to have bad intentions with his behaviour but potentially struggles with the environment/noise/excitement. He’s always so happy when I pick him this whole situation has me so confused and really upset.. things have ramped up in the last few weeks and it makes me feel like we have failed him! 😔 Not sure the point of this post but if anyone has advice I would really appreciate it 🥺

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Sounds like he would be more suited to a childminder - suggest exploring that option. It’s cheaper and more flexible too

@Michelle this is definitely something to think about, I’ll be due to return to work in May/June and would like to find somewhere that he will be comfortable for longer days.

It sounds like he doesn't know how to communicate his frustrations to them properly or they don't know how to best handle him. My LO is same age, with potential adhd. She really struggles to control her emotions and does pretty much what you explained above but she is like that at home and school. I'd either look at a different school, maybe one that is known for being able to deal with special needs. Not saying he has it, but they do treat kids very differently and maybe they can teach him how to better control his emotions.

Sounds very similar to my son.. since the summer he's been throwing toys sometimes or will push someone with no reason apparently.. they've said he seems to lack impulse control but that's normal for this age. He has excellent speech but I think struggled communicating his feelings. It's so frustrating because he's such a good boy but obviously something sometimes triggers him. Our babies are still little so just got to keep praising good behaviour and maybe adding consequences to the not so good.. it's tough!