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To me, she is my beautiful and wonderful daughter. Not half this, half that. It has never crossed my mind that she may face difficulties with certain groups in the future, but recently family members have been making comments such as “she looks more asian today” or “her white features are really showing”. Her dad’s family are also obsessed with her skin tone and double eyelids. I have pointed out my concerns to these people and the comments are far less frequent now. I guess I’m just looking on advice on how to make sure she feels confident, secure and knows she’s perfect how she is.

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I've been wondering the same. Most people say my baby looks very white but I do get some people who call him "an Asian baby". People will discuss his features and I don't really know how to go about it. I get it that it's "fascinating" (I myself constantly wonder about it because I'm anxious about racism) but I just hope he grows up with both of his backgrounds confidently.

I think you’ll do an amazing job raising a confident secure little girl. And she’s absolutely adorable ❤️

As long as she feel secure from her root ( family) it a great start I think if she know her culture from both side growing up it help a lot And experience a lot of culture diversity Meet different people from around the world help her see there are not only one kind or another kind but many and it s normal I'm mixed too it hard to fit in till I learn that it really normal people are different and carry different culture and we can exchange and share It nice to explore and experience different

I dont think they mean any harm and unfortunately there will always be comments throughout her life. Just raise her to be proud of her unique mixed beauty! I was like a little asian sumo wrestler baby and then lost it loads when I grew up, gutted

She is beautiful and wonderful. She is all you and she is all your partner and all of the ancestors who resulted in her today. We do the best we can and never compare. Good for you on getting people to stop making stupid comments. There is an obsession in the Asian community to look more white and western: double eye lids, light skin, high nose bridge. It sucks when one sibling has the features and the other doesn't. Hopefully this generation can break free from all of this.