How bad would it look?
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@Christina I understand he could get a dna test. But he’s telling people he doesn’t believe that our one year old is his. So if he wants to try and push it off as if he’s not the dad, I’d be willing to give him an out for him to give me full custody over my son.
I think a judge would still demand one since y’all are there and you wouldn’t be able to stop it.
If he doesn’t think the child is his why is he even going to court for a custody agreement?
Not good. When the DNA test comes back and confirms he is you’ll just look like a liar
@Christina because he’s a narcissist who wants control, and he’s just very spiteful.
@Wendi you’re probably right, but at least it’d be at his dime to prove it
@Kristen benefit of the doubt stating that there’s a chance it could be someone else since we weren’t married and I got pregnant the same weekend I moved in
Never lie in court. They can use that against you later. If you are in the US and he is not on the birth certificate he doesn’t have rights anyways. A paternity test would have to be done.
@Cal he’s on the birth certificate, but I wonder if I sewed just enough doubt in his mind that maybe it wasn’t his just between us, if it’d be enough for him to say, not my kid, not my problem, I’m dipping.
If he's a narcissist it might just give him more cause to double down on pushing just to make you suffer through it.
I just don’t think lying, especially in court is a good idea. If you get caught in your lie it’s going to just make things worse.
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Don’t play games over custody of your child. Makes you look childish and a liar (which you would be). Also, your child has a right to know who her parents are.
I’d advise against this - courts would request a DNA test and you lying will go against you.
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If you wanna see if it works on him I'd say call him n say it (if you don't think he will record u) or say it in person to him. And see if he calls off court. Def wouldn't say it in writing.. If you do go to court I'd say Don't lie at all. Once they question your credibility anything else you say won't be taken as seriously bc they may think that you are just trying them ya kno. There's a chance he may hear that from you and want to take it to court anyway to just b a dick and get DNA ordered and put you through something. If you have anything against him that proves him unsafe or unfit for the child just start collecting some evidence of that
He can get a DNA test. It seems messed up to me to lie about who the father is. The court might not know you are lying so it might not make you look bad but it is a bad thing to do.