Struggling

Hi, just want to know if I’m overreacting, is it me? I am finding this phase really stressful and I am finding it hard with patience throughout the day. My baby boy is 9.5 months old, never been a great sleeper, the most he does is around 3-4 hours and that’s on a good night, it all went worse recently since he started settling in sessions at nursery and we’ve had hand foot and mouth, stomach bug and 2 colds in 4 weeks. Just coming back on solids now after refusing food for a while during the illness period, I am scared it will all get worse again in 2 weeks when he starts nursery properly. Separation anxiety is kicking in and he is very keen on trying to walk, he is cruising all around the house now and is quite a daredevil taking risks and throwing himself to the abyss, he is climbing on the sofa, getting himself inside his toy box, its quite funny but I feel like I haven’t slept in a year, the illnesses period has been so hard, I got back to work last month, he is refusing all kinds of sleep, bedtime takes ages, he is up so many times during the night, he fights all nappy changes, clothes changes, the tantrums are real when he doesn’t get what he wants, he has no chill whatsoever. I have no support network around me and I get no breaks, I have no time to shower or do any minimal type of self care, I am starting to feel really overwhelmed, sometimes I see people with 3 or 4 children and I wonder if it’s me, what am I doing wrong? Why am I finding it so hard? Other mums usually told me it gets easier and I am just finding harder and harder since around 6 months when he started to crawl and his energy levels spiked. Sorry I guess this is more of a rant than anything, sometimes I also wonder if this is PPD and haven’t identified it yet.

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It is really hard. I get that same feeling of how do others do it when they have multiple kids. I don’t have a support network either and honestly that makes all the difference. When you have to do everything it’s so overwhelming and it is understandable that you find it hard to keep up sometimes, especially when you’re back at work and sleep deprived. No advice really but I feel you mama and I hope things settle down for you soon ❤️

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I have a network and not even back to work yet and still feel like how and why would anyone choose to do this more than once!

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There is a lot going on at the moment, for you, and your little man. He doesn't know how to manage his emotions and the only way he knows how, is Mama. I know that may be not what you want to hear, but when things are uncertain for him, you are his safe space, his constant, you show up for him, scoop him up and everything is right again in his little world. He just doesn't understand that you're a hot mess trying to juggle him, and work and a house, social life etc!

I have 3 children and it is so tough, I'm back to work in 3 weeks and I honestly don't know how I'll cope. However, I have a very supportive team of colleagues who notice when I'm struggling and I can talk to them. Do you have someone you can lean on at work? Because other mums have been there, it's not all what you see on Instagram, but we're all just doing our best xx

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I totally understand... My baby girl is the same. Been a very bad sleeper since birth. She wakes me up dozens of times every night and getting her to sleep is a disaster every time! I feel shattered every day and it just feels like i will never sleep:( You are not alone, all babies are different, some are easier than others. Its not your fault he sleeps like that, i hope that its just a phase and we will both get some rest soon🥲

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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Struggling with IMMATURE dad 😪

Had issues pre- baby, drug use, drinking nearly every weekend, viscous cycle calms down, behaves then back to it. Calms down again wants to change, wants to be be a good dad and loves his daughter so stops going out.. but tonight out of no where, goes to football wins a game and turns his phone off so I can’t even get hold of him. What do you with this sort of behaviour? I feel so stuck and feel like I can’t get out of this relationship as he can be so manipulative. Struggling financially so he’s also spending money we don’t have and need for our baby.
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