I don’t know what to do anymore

My daughter is still breastfed through out the day time and has boob before bed. I’m pregnant and wanting to stop breastfeeding as my boobs are sore but that’s not my main problem. At night if I don’t breastfeed my daughter to sleep and let her dad rock her she is screaming at him and has recently started hitting him ,pulling his hair and since last night headbutting. She is hurting herself and her dad and then of course he brings her back to me to prevent himself from getting angry with her but then my boobs hurt so much and she keeps biting my nipples thinking it’s funny. It took us 4 hours to get her to bed last night and it ended with her breastfeeding to sleep and me and her dad in a lot of pain. I just feel so defeated. I feel as though this is all my fault for always breastfeeding her to sleep. I just don’t know what to do. Is it bad for my to go cold turkey with breastfeeding? I’ve tried cutting down but she is literally asking for it every half hour which is crazy at this age😭 she just won’t sleep without it!

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This was me not that long ago. I didn't realise how much I was offering boob to him (not me saying you are btw) but I tried the don't offer but don't refuse method. And in the day offering LOTS of snacks and water instead (and I mean a literal mountain of snacks 😂). I also used to feed to sleep for naps and had to revert to walking pram naps to get him off. We also switched to a "bottle of daddy's special milk" aka whole milk but made it super special sounding. I won't lie and say it worked straight away but he's only had it maybe twice in the last week or two? Hope that all makes sense

No don’t feel bad at all! We have nights where I mainly breastfeed to sleep, some I deny the boob because she’s just mucking around and some where she just doesn’t want it and falls asleep with me just holding her although this has only happened a few times recently but without me forcing it (she’s ebf and now 19months). My point is you haven’t done anything wrong and if it’s not working for you then finding another way is best ❤️ I hope that makes sense! One sleep deprived mamma over here 🤣

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