She has set chores, she just either ‘forgets’ or does half a job. I never had this issue with my oldest who’s out the house now, she is so sassy and lazy, even if I take things off her or ground her she just doesn’t care. My partner has just started a new job working nights so I’m giving him time to adjust, but he has a bad habit of leaving his stuff lying around. It winds me up so much, I have spoken to him and her, it’s like they wait for me to totally lose it before they pull their finger out, it just makes me feel so unmotivated
Sorry but why isn’t the 10yr old doing chores? You should be getting her to not only put her own clothes in the wash but also her siblings. She should have set chores that are delegated to her. She can also do the washing or put dishes in the dishwasher (if you have one). Why isn’t the partner helping out? Have you voiced it to him?