Coping with Disappointment: Another Month Without a Positive Test

Yesterday, I experienced some spotting and was thrilled, thinking it might be implantation bleeding since I was 11 DPO. However, today at 12 DPO, the spotting has increased, and it seems like it's my period starting. I took a pregnancy test this morning, and it was negative. My period was due in two days, and I definitely feel like I'm on my period with the same cramps. I'm so disappointed, back to square one and hoping for better luck next cycle. I'm feeling like giving up and might stop testing LH or tracking temperatures until I'm significantly late. It's become too stressful, so I'm leaving it in God's hands. I just needed to share this with someone who might understand. My friends aren't trying for a baby or having a baby, so they can't really relate. I hope everyone on this journey gets a positive test soon.

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You aren’t alone! 😔 I’m 12dpo too and can tell AF is imminent with negative tests. It’s heart wrenching when you have to go through this rollercoaster each month. I think you hit the nail on the head though, a break from the constant testing may do you the world of good. Focus on a few other things, spend less time on these apps and try reset your mindset. As long as you BD your chances are still as strong without the constant stressing 😊 Worth noting sometimes spotting can last a couple of days, but if it is AF I hope you get your BFP very soon. 🤞

Thank you for your kind words. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in this. The rollercoaster is indeed tough, but you’re right—a break from the constant testing might be just what I need. I’ll try to focus on other things and reset my mindset. I appreciate the reminder about spotting sometimes lasting a few days. Fingers crossed for both of us that we get our BFPs soon. 🤞😊

I’m also stopping tracking moving forward, no more apps, peeing on sticks every wee, temperatures or anything. Back to basics, it’s taken over my life and it’s definitely increase anxiety. Good luck, hope you get your BFP soon. Xx

I can totally get this, I had sore boobs and odd sense of smell and SO emotional which was very similar to my last pregnancy (miscarried in October) I started spotting one day and I had a meltdown, I work in community maternity services and I had to go home from work as being around the babies was sending me over the edge. It took me about a week after my period to make peace with it. We’ve been trying since Jan 23 and had the one miscarriage in that time and some times I can take the negative as it is and be okay with it and other months it knocks me off my feet. It is SO hard. Sending lots of positive vibes to you xxx

I feel the same, AF arrived 2 days ago 🙃...just got to keep moving forward! Think about how you're going to change things up for the following month. New vitamins? More walks? More yoga?

Thank you all for sharing your experiences and support. Emily, I completely agree with stopping all the tracking. It can really help reduce anxiety and bring some peace back into our lives. The constant stress and disappointment can be overwhelming. Hannah, I’m so sorry for your loss. It must be incredibly difficult, especially working in maternity services. I admire your strength and resilience. It’s important to take the time you need to make peace with it, and I’m sending lots of positive vibes your way too. Dipti, I’m sorry to hear AF arrived. It’s tough, but you’re right—we have to keep moving forward. I’m definitely considering new vitamins, more walks, and yoga to change things up. Good luck to all of us, and I hope we get our BFPs soon. Thank you for the support, and wishing you all the best as well. xx

I just remind myself our time will come, and it will be all the more amazing when it does 🤍

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