Single mother for like 5+ years. (Well I had a bf for little over a year but, still considered myself a single mother). But the time alone was amazinnnnggg girl. I've gained so much peace and learned alot about myself. I feel like somethings you won't learn unless you're alone. U know ? It does get easier, it really does. And as for me, I love being single. Not saying that I don't want a husband one day, bc I do. But being single is so peaceful. I became single when my baby was like 3 or so. Been single since (she's 9). -other than the bf I had.
Single mom here to a 14 months old. I separated when my LO was 8 weeks. It gets better, it’s a process and focus on yourself/ your peace and definitely go out to the park, a walk… stay out of the house as much as you can (with your baby). If you have someone who can care for your baby while you can enjoy some time alone do something that you really enjoy once a week.
@Lisa Aw hang in there mama 🫶🏽 yeah, I haven’t been single since Hs I really need to learn to be self dependent especially since my daughter is depending on me 😢 definitely been tough but I can’t wait to see the other side of this healing journey.
@Brittany I love that 😊 I definitely have alot! of learning about myself to do I don’t know myself at all I got into that relationship fresh out of hs didn’t get a chance to figure out who I was 😪 then boom! I’m a mother lol. Looking forward to the journey I just have a lot of healing to do
@Mariam 🇨🇺 Thankyou for that I think im actually going to go for a walk now 😊 Iv been in the house all week 🥲
I was in an off again and on again relationship with my son’s dad for 14 months before I ended it 4 months ago. Mentally it is SO HARD. You’re not meant to go through life alone and you’re not meant to go through tough times alone so try to surround yourself with supportive people/a person. Don’t feel shame about anything, you’re not the first person to go through this and sadly we won’t be the last. Visualize often yourself coming out of it successful. Think of your wins. PRAY (if you believe in God). Do your best to create stability for yourself and your child to get through the days, day by day - little routines help. You got this 💕
@Destiny Frfr girl. And ima be honest , healing for me was not pretty. It was hard. I did alot of crying and questioning why this and why that and just didn't know what I was gonna do. But GOD! 🙌🏾 Girl don't get me to preaching on this post 🤣😅 but fr, inbox me if you ever wanna talk or need advice or anything !
New single mom too!! Let’s me friends message me🥺 it’s been a hard week too, I haven’t been single since hs as well as being self dependent
@Brittany Will do 😊 & yess I want/need to get closer to god!!!
@Vedanna Thankyou 😊😊🫶🏽
I agree with @Brittany . There isn't anything like it, and once you've got your groove, you know you can do it all because you are doing it all. There is nothing or no one that can stop you! Finding mom friends who are for you and you are for them, no competition is also so wonderful. You build each other up and forget about finding someone. Focus on your kids, you, job, school, gym, whatever it is! You become so self-sufficient that when you meet someone, they're there because you simply want them there (forget about needing someone). They're there because you have chosen to be with them and love them. They will also know that when the time comes, you come as a package, and if they can't meet your expectations or give you what you want, that is only rheir problem because you'll be set with yourself. I'm not a man hater, just this is how I felt and still do even now that I have a partner. I still run into instances when we argue I know that I'll be ok because I've done this before. I'm established.
I’m one hour in being a single mom & I’m sitting here like what do I do now? 🥺 I’m here if you need someone to talk to
Going through the same thing, became single about two weeks ago and I have a six month old. It’s not easy whatsoever but mentally it does get a little better day by day . Still trying to figure everything out as well