Happy with baby

Hey mama, you have a right to contribute to your gender reveal & baby shower. They are YOURS. Is there a specific reasoning why you cannot assert more of what you want? This is a difficult chapter- our bodies are going through major hormone shifts- honor your feelings because they are all valid- but also go easy on yourself . Hope you take some time for extra self love. Don’t allow others to negate you out of the excitement that is your child ! this is your experience!! first n foremost

@Kels I guess for me since I’m new and I don’t really have many female friends, so I thought I would be planning it all so I made a bunch of Pinterest boards about it and told my one female coworker/friend about it and my mom so they took the reigns on it and I don’t know, I just am so in the dark that I only know the dates and nothing else.. I just feel stressed and lost. I feel like since it’s my first kid everyone got so excited that everyone forgot I was a human, I went though the same thing when I had cancer but for different reasons, like they only saw my cancer then and not me and now it’s happening with my pregnancy from everyone it feels like

@Kayla Let them know how you’re feeling. I would think they would want to make you happy after all. You deserve to advocate for yourself!!

@Kels I definitely will try harder to do it with the baby shower, my one coworker/friend, my mom, my other coworker and my cousin already decided the date for the gender reveal, and I know nothing about it except for the date and colors I picked. I just keep hoping it all goes ok, and sometimes after all of it so far I have been trying to convince myself not to say I’m not having anymore kids after this, I feel like most of my freedoms with certain things have just been taken away due to my pregnancy and I genuinely can’t express how hard that is to deal with. Thank you for listening, I think you’ve been the only one so far

I know how you feel. With my daughter’s pregnancy, I felt like my baby shower was high jacked. I wanted it to be women AND MEN and include my hubby, our dads etc because we had a long journey to that pregnancy and wanted to share it with all our family and friends. Our moms who were hosting it thought it should only be for women and didn’t even invite my uncles after I said over and over what I wanted. This will be baby 2 for me and I haven’t shared much with anyone and am not doing a public announcement because everyone makes it their business and steam rolls you. Let whoever is doing your gender reveal know what YOU want, it’s your celebration ❤️ I might get crazy and throw my own baby shower this time 😂

@Jacqueline That breaks my heart, that is the one thing I was super strict about, only because I have mostly dude friends. It’s really hard sometimes because you love these people and don’t want to hurt their feelings by saying stuff but at the same time it hurts us because we can’t have it the way we want.

@Jacqueline Thank you for that pep talk, also congratulations!🎉🖤, and doooo it! If you do I would love to see pictures of it🖤 I’m rooting for ya