Left in completely loneliness

I’m pregnant with baby #2 and the he just up and left over complete bullshit (him not caring for his cat and i snapped). To make it all worse the first dad left at 8w pregnant with my first and he came into our lives at 22w pregnant and knew the trauma I went through from that and he still up and did the same. I don’t know what to feel other then I have let down my second child with another half bullshit life.
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Just know none of this is your fault. You are an amazing mother and will continue to be! Man who leave over pettiness or the inability to just man up are not beneficial to your life. I know it hurts but as time goes on you will come to know how strong and brave you are

I feel really sorry for the kids involved. You selected these two “men.” There’s one common element in the story. It might be worth spending some time single and sorting through your life before finding another man to further confuse the poor kids.

@Heather and these are the comments no one needs. 👌🏻😂

@Heather also neither child was planned children while on birth control

Surrounding yourself with yes people telling you lies is pretty useless. You post in a public forum, you might get a much needed wake up call…..

@Heather she really doesn’t need this right now. Honestly how would you feel if you were going through an extremely devastating time and you’re looking for some support and someone takes the opportunity to be a complete asshole. They weren’t planned she was on BC, they chose to be shitty men. The only ones who need to do better are them and you. I’m 100% she’s been hard enough on herself she doesn’t need people like you chiming in. Amber you’ve got this girl. It’s going to be hard and it’s going to be scary but find your village and lean on them. There are resources to help single moms, take full advantage of them. And if he tries to come crawling back don’t let him.

@Heather I definitely agree with this. This may not be what she “needs” but that’s the reality. I grew up up with a single mom and my dad was cheating on my mom she knew about it tried to make it work, then stepdad he had a drug and alcohol problem my mom still tried to make it work and he put his hands on me. The man she has now is still off I just haven’t figured out how yet. While she is an incredible gift and person and I am so grateful for her, she should have vetted her men better. Moving forward you should vet your men and I suggest 6 months + before they ever meet your children. They don’t get to pick their father but you can pick your partner. Doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom you just have some lessons to learn and that’s just life.

Amber I think when the time is right hun, and when you wish to think about the kind of men you are attracting. Which doesn't have to be right now. Figuring out why are you attracted to men who end up being a flight risk might help your future relationships. But it's most definitely NOT your fault. The action of abandonment is on them. Your kids need one loving parent to get them through a fulfilling life. And you are it. You have all the love in the world to give.

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