Mom guilt
Little background I have a 1 year old & was diagnosed with incompetent and opened cervix at 20 weeks old and we’ve been preparing for a premature birth ever since .
LO fought hard and stayed in but had to have a planned c-section at 36 weeks since he was not gaining weight.
I gave birth last week and it has been pretty rough on my body.
LO is still in the nicu and I have been discharged 2 days ago. He’s loosing weight and forgetting to breathe sometimes. I breastfeed when I go and pump and bring milk. Yesterday I spent 8 hours in the nicu and I have a hard time getting up. I want to take a day off from visiting but dealing with so much guilt😫😫
My 1 year old also had a meltdown last night when we came back and wouldn’t let us go. He’s been following us everywhere to make sure we don’t leave.
My heart feels like I gotta choose between my babies + focusing on my own recovery.
Should I just force myself to go today for less hours? Any advice on how to deal with the guilt?
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My LO was born at 28wks I spent 10wks in hospital in total. I would cap my visit to an hour or 2 twice a day. I would make sure I was there for at least two cares a day. You need to recover as well. I was very lucky on my surgery days my parents would go and do his cares. Mom guilt is a horrible feeling. My LO is 19months old and the only time I have ever left him was in December to have a hysterectomy and my gyane made me stay in hospital for 7 days because she knew I wouldn't rest. Giving birth to a preemie is emotionally exhausting and physically exhausting. Take a day off you will not be judged. You also had a c section you need rest let your wound heal.
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My LG was in for 4 weeks and I took probably 3 days off, but when I went in, I usually only stayed for maybe 2 hours in the morning, came back and had some chill time (easier said then done if you also have a 1 year old) and went back for a couple of hours in the afternoon. I was still the person she saw the most and I was pumping etc when I wasn't there but also, you've been through a hell of a ride so give yourself a break! They don't know any different!!!