Need a vent
I genuinely can’t live with my parents and my brother. My mum sits in front of the TV and moans about every little pain she feels all day and it drives me up the wall listening to the same stuff everyday. She doesn’t put effort on cooking for when I say it tastes like water believe me it tastes like water. So now I make my own food. My dad expects more than what I am doing already. I cook chapatti’s for everyone make our food and now he wants me to make their food to (without onion). The other day I was struggling and he just walked off how do you expect me to do everything if I’m not going to get help. My brother doesn’t use his common sense eats like an animal and does not act like a man keep in mind he is 21 he is so molly cuddled it is crazy.
I came here for help they told me im going to need the help but it’s more like they need the help. I really want to move out but i don’t want to go crazy between 4 walls too.
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Just stop cooking for them. You should eat out at 7/11.
Try to move back to your place. It will affect your mental health gradually.
I’d approach them with how you’re feeling (gently) and let them know that it’s been the opposite of helpful in some ways. Obviously start by thanking them and see if anything changes in a week or month. Let them know you would be fine alone if this is what you’re trading. I personally wouldn’t expect any residents to NOT cook, including you. Maybe they feel like that’s your exchange for rent or something? Either way I agree with Lele. Your child is your priority now, and you have to be sane to care for child.
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Remove anyone that is not allowing you to be 100% for yourself and your children even if it is family keeping your distance so that your sanity is intact is not a crime and often we put all this guilt onto ourselves because we know that’s what we should dobut if your family is not helping you out and not making you feel like you have a village, then it’s time for you to create your own with people who are actually putting an effort for you and your children