I'm finding this draining

I have been under a lot of pressure due to going back to work and looking after a toddler and also juggling house work, cooking, cleaning, errands etc. Husband helps but does the bare minimum. I have a lot of mental load right now. I'm finding that whenever people try to talk to me i just zone out. Like my husband is always aaking me questions like "what should I do with this or that" or my mum will ask questions and I just don't have the energy to listen or respond. Like I know they have said something but to me it is just muffled noise. I'm finding it hard to concentrate and listen because listening has become exhausting. So I frequently find myself ignoring them even though I don't mean to and it comes across as rude. I just want people to be quiet and give my brain a rest. Especially my husband because he asks me how to do such basic things or asks me where the keys are or where this and that is like he is incapable to think for himself. I feel like I have to be his brain too and that is completely exhausting for me. I feel so irritable and mentally exhausted I just want people to shut up and leave me alone so I can focus on my toddler and getting things done. I don't know how to say this or if this is even normal? It really irritates me when people talk too much.

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it sounds like you have burn out 😔, its not normal ofcourse and not healthy for you. You need a break and some rest, maybe come to some kind of agreement with your husband to look after the child for abit even if its 1 or 2 hrs whilst you can take a nap or just to take a break. To provide the best care to your child, you need to have that time to refresh and reset yourself or you won't be able to focus. Maybe you can type this up to your husband, what you want from him and how you've been feeling without it sounding like you are saying he is the problem or sounding like you are attacking him i've been there, i totally get it, you can barely socialise and have very little energy to do anything

I think thats exactly it. Thing is alhamdulillah my husband does take him for a couple hours sometimes and I get to go to the gym or do something but it still doesn't seem to work for me. I feel likeni can't concentrate if people keep talking to me or asking me questions. It's actually giving me anxiety to the point where I want to be left alone. I seem to feel perfectly fine when I'm with my toddler alone. But when people talk I often find my brain shuts down and I can't listen to what they are saying. Especially if someone is extroverted and constantly talking, especially in social settings when we are invited over to weddings and people's houses. I find myself nodding along but I'm not listening to what they are saying because in my mind I'm thinking about what needs to be done. And then feeling very drained afterwards

yes this is a major sign of burn out, that part of your brain just shuts down and you cant process whats being said because you're subconciously thinking about various things, and it also shows you're under alot of stress too. subHaanAllaah, i ask Allaah to ease your situation and grant you relief from your hardships 'Aameen 🌷

I agree with the above or even ask your mum to help you. But deffo take some time out to rest, and if you feel okay from rest, then find something enjoyable that you used to do before! For me it’s makeup! X

Thanks ladies I will take that on board x

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