in TTC: USA
Am I being sensitive or is this annoying?
My sister in law fosters and has adopted a child. She wants 2 kids and she is now in the process of adopting her second. So happy for her, love my niece and nephew. But she has said some insensitive things:
You have to have a baby this year, we have had a baby every year since 2021 so you have to have one.
She constantly tells me about her friends getting pregnant or having babies and we don't share a friend group or anything.
She constantly reminds me she is waiting for me to have a baby so she can get snuggles.
I struggle with infertility. It was a struggle with my first and I'm struggling again with trying again. She knows I had a hard time with my first and acted less insensitively but she didn't have her family finished so maybe she just is unaware.
Basically just a rant. Thanks for reading. Any input is appreciated.
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She’s annoying sis and let her know you do not appreciate her comments, and keep it to her self, you have to set boundaries for you and your peace
We have had one child but can't seem to have another. We've been trying for almost 5 years. Anytime we called my MIL or told her we wanted to talk to her for almost 2 years she would get all excited and be like "ARE YOU PREGNANT!!!". And every one of those comments hurt. Sometimes people don't realize the pain. So I would just sit her down and ask her to stop with all of the baby comments. We told my MIL if she didn't stop reacting like that we would stop calling.
It can be really tough to deal with insensitive comments, especially when they come from loved ones. Firstly, congratulations to your sister-in-law on her adoption journey! I am adopted and i think it’s awesome! However, it's essential to address her thoughtless remarks. Her comments might stem from excitement and eagerness but they can be hurtful and dismissive of your struggles. Consider having an open and honest conversation with your sister-in-law. Let her know how her words make you feel and explain your journey with infertility. Remember, education and empathy can go a long way in helping others understand your journey.