Why do I always have to justify myself and my actions to my partner's family?

I feel the same way and I’d love advice too I feel like I voice my opinion but my husband always takes his family’s side and it’s really annoying I don’t know what to do

Someone on this group once suggested the phrase 'ill give that the consideration it deserves' I thought that was great. You could also try 'thank you for your input' if you wanted to be slightly less pass-agg. 'I've been told that I am an intuitive parent whose child is thriving (or insert other relevant praise) by (insert someone more qualified than them)' highlights that they are the only people bringing negativity and their opinion is not one you'd invite.

I just don’t. They have learned any explanation comes with a scientific response stemming from academic research and that they can’t debate or refute it. I now just the word ‘no’.

I started answering everything with “my baby, my choice” (then smile innocently ☺️) It’s not rude but making clear that you don’t need to justify your decisions. Example - you say you are formula feeding, MIL “advises” you that you should be breastfeeding and she did X, Y & Z with her kids blah blah blah You respond “thanks, but my child, my choice” MIL starts telling you that you need to turn your child around to forward face in the car (even though you have said MULTIPLE times that rear facing is safer) - she is saying how all her kids forward faced and they were all fine “yeah but my child so ultimately my choice” ☺️ MIL gets annoyed that you are shutting her down with your phase (my child, my choice) just say “I’m not trying to be rude or disrespectful, I’m just stating that (insert child’s name) IS my child so any parenting decision ARE my choice. I understand you feel differently to how I do but (insert child’s name) is my child. I don’t need to explain or justify myself”

@Maria another one on the same boat 🛶

I agree with brittany.. But for me if any of my inlaws try to question anything I do with my children. I simply just don't bother why waste my time, effort or even oxygen to justify anything to those people. They don't pay my bills, put clothes on our backs, food in our mouths or a roof over our heads so what they say don't matter cause at the end of the day I will raise my children the way I want to raise my children.. So my MIL only talks to my children via video chat maybe twice every other week if not maybe once or twice a month. I don't need her toxic negative vibes in my life. But I keep some sort of tiny communication with her.. not completely cut her off cause at the end of the day that's still my mil.. but doesn't mean I need to speak to her daily.

@Chelc oh but if you’re SAHM then you got to do what they say since her son is the breadwinner 🙄 I hate when you are the stay at home mom also don’t have a right to say that much since you don’t bring money at home that what basically kind insinuating the husband!.

@Josseline I'm a SAHM but I do bring in income and get paid every 2 weeks like my husband does my job allows me to bring my children with me... so that's a plus. Plus I don't live with my inlaws and my husband stands with me in everything.. so his mother & sister don't ever tries to over steps... what I say goes when it comes to my children.. and if they say something or ever over step my husband puts them in their place.. and let's them know my wife said this or my wife said that so if they won't respect my wishes than sucks to be them cause they won't see or hear from us. But for your situation hun regardless if your a SAHM.. you have every right to raise your children how you want not nobody else regardless your husband brings in the money.. the home isn't a home with out you making it a home.. cooking, cleaning, washing the clothes, making sure the kids are taking care of.. your job is full time longer than a 8-5 shift SAHM shifts never ends..

@Chelc thank you very much for your comment 👌🏼 definitely is what you have said!

@Josseline of course.. don't let nobody say other wise.. your doing a great job.. keep Up the amazing work.. need to chat you are so welcome to private message me I'm always just a message away.

@Chelc sure! Just sent a message:)