Am I being selfish?
My boyfriend is upset and saying he feels as if he has no say in anything. Basically this is my second pregnancy, but my first pregnancy having a partner by my side. The father of my first daughter opted out when I was just 3 months pregnant. So everything I went through I went throw alone, everything I had to planned was planned with the help of my mom and sister. Well this time around I wanted to do the things I didn’t get a chance to with my first born. I wanted to check out the childbirth classes, breastfeeding classes so I signed us up for one of each. The hospital strongly recommended that my partner attend both with me. Not something he wants to do. Another thing is matching shirts for me, my partner, and our daughter for the baby shower. BUT get this, they’re PINK. Since we’re having another girl and it was the only available color that matched the theme at the time on the Etsy shop. Well he doesn’t want to wear a pink shirt. He is nowhere near thrilled about it. The shirt is what brought it this all up. I told him we could skip the classes and shirts even though both had already been paid for, it is what it is right? But is there anyway to get him to understand where I’m coming from or do I just stick with “it is what it is”?
I can see his point tbh. If you are making all the decisions and telling him afterwards instead of deciding together he probably feels very left out. You two would probably have made the exact same choices but it's different having a say and being told what's happening or what to do. I get that is what you had to do before but this time around it's his baby too - and his first - and he's getting no say. Imagine if he was deciding everything and taking the excitement away from you?