Fussy baby around large groups?

Hi mommas.. my 3.5 month old is generally a happy baby and is the happiest at home where she’s comfortable and knows her surroundings. She’s great on walks and loves the mall and taking in all the sights. But she is so bad at large get togethers (my parents love to host big groups all the time) and she always is super fussy around others/or at parties where there’s a large group of people. I know she’s just a baby.. but I’ve seen plenty of other moms take their babies to big gatherings and do fine. Am I doing something wrong by sheltering her and staying home most of the time and only doing walks/mall outings? My anxiety is through the roof, I feel like I’m doing something wrong or that I have a difficult baby even though she’s an Angel at home in her comfort zone. Can anyone relate? And does it get better? (Her pediatrician doesn’t think it’s colic since she’s usually always fine just not around large groups). I also want to add we have people come over to our house all the time and she’s fine! I even had a large gathering at my house and she was totally fine. It’s just large gatherings at other people’s houses..etc.

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My LO is the opposite. She’s better in groups and seems to fuss more at home and in the stroller. It gives me anxiety to take her on stroller walks, which is a bummer bc I was really looking forward to them. They all have their own personalities!

Are the gatherings at your parents' house generally louder than the ones you host? It could just be that she's overstimulated by being in a new place and around a large number of people, especially if those people are interactive with her. Next time you're at a gathering at your parents, see if you can find a quiet room and maybe slowly introduce her back to the party or wait til she falls asleep and then go back

At this age babies definitely get overstimulated in new environments! It’s normal, but definitely exhausting when you’re trying to enjoy the party. I find that taking breaks helps, finding a more calming space for baby to regulate for a bit & babywearing for comfort.

My daughter doesn't like noise she likes calm no chaos!!! Our house environment is very calm and less noisy we are noisy but we don't make a racket but when we go over to his aunts house holy shit she screams!!! Sooo I feel you