Still not potty trained, tips?

I’m losing the will. This is my third time this year trying to potty train him, each time he’s shown signs of readiness and interest in having pants and in the potty or toilet. The first time we tried for a fortnight and the second was 11 days and with no success. Today I decided it was the day to try again because he’s keen and in a good mood but he’s decided he doesn’t want to be changed and I got a foot to the ribs trying to change him. I’m getting pressure from the health visitor and judgement from family that he’s not potty trained yet and I don’t know what else to try at this rate I’ll take any and all advice, TIA
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When you say no success, what do you mean? Like was it just two weeks/11 days of all accidents? What approach have you taken when you’ve tried? Or strategies you’ve already used? Might help others give new ideas rather than suggest things you’ve already done! Lots of good advice here https://eric.org.uk/potty-training Personally, we trained straight to the toilet. Naked from the waist down, then added clothes back in when he was getting the hang of it. No pull ups or nappies. Stickers and chocolate buttons to reward if he was reluctant, especially for doing a poo.

@Ammara the nursery shouldn't be saying that to you, yes in an ideal world children should be potty trained by the time they go to school, but not all children will be. My son is 3 and not potty trained yet, he's got speech and development delay, and his nursery couldn't be understanding. I asked the question about potty trained before he starts school next year, they told me not to worry or put pressure on myself or him, and that he will do it when he's ready and not to force him as it'll make it worse. They said no schools will not accept kids who aren't just there yet xx

@Ammara I would just openly tell them he isn't ready. The more you make him try, the more harder it will be. He will do it when he's ready. I just leave a potty out for my son and no nappy only time he wears one is when he's in nursery and for bed, we'll he's in pull ups. Nursery are also helping with his training but I do not put pressure on him. Also when he does a poo in his nappy mainly at night he seems to go, I always take him to the bathroom and put the poo down the toilet and make a big thing about it. Hes starting to grasp thats where it goes. But im not rushing him. I would speak to nursery and also the school he's going to about your concerns, im sure they'll put your mind at ease. Xx

@Ammara no problem. Small steps brings the best results. Remember you can always walk in a marathon you don't always have to run. Good luck with everything, please let me know how your chat goes with them x

My son was a nightmare to potty train as well. He was scared of the toilet and the potty. We had long chats with him. We told him that pee feels sticky and dirty on his legs that's why it should go in the toilet. WE pee in the toilet because we don't want that sticky pee in our pants. "It feels dirty, you don't want to feel that do you?" (no shaming just logical explanation) So he smiled and said "ooh I see, it's dirty" and agreed to sit on the toilet. 1,5 hours after drinking lots of water and milk he sat on the toilet. We played with his favourite toys for 10 minutes and he started peeing. He realised it wasn't scary. We praised him so it became a positive thing in his mind. I still took him to the toilet every 1,5 hours in the first 2-3 days. On the 4th day he started controlling his bladder and we had no accidents. We stopped reminding him after that point he took the lead. No screen time (apart from watching something whilst waiting for a wee on the toilet) in those first few days really helped.

Instead of saying "you need to pee in the potty/toilet," WE pee in the toilet so he doesn't immediately say no. Buying pants with cars on them helped (he's obsessed with them). Letting him watch us having a wee/poo on the toilet helped too(I know🙈) Also make the process of wiping, flushing, washing hands fun so that he's motivated to have a wee/poo. Good luck!

It’s all a process. Weve been doing it since January and she’s taken so well to it but still has little accidents (wee/ half a wee) when she’s busy playing outside at nursery. Perseverance is key and as Chloe says reiterating good jobs with stickers etc & praise

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