Mom guilt
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My oldest is 21 y.o. and has been spending Friday nights over his paternal grandparents all his life. (His father and I have been divorced for 18 yrs) In my opinion this has been invaluable to both my son and his grandparents. There was a little bit of time in there where I had mom guilt over it but realized him spending time over there was good for all of us. It gave them time to bond and me time for a little bit of me time, which we mommas need!
I feel like it’s easier for me to make set plans and go out with friends for an activity versus finding time to just drop them off and do housework/stuff at home. It winds up giving me more of a break when I have these set plans. 🤷♀️ versus feeling weird for asking to drop them off to hang around my house?
Update
Now she ask for them even during the week which she says “you can’t today “ I get it but it’s like i can’t say no without being rude . I feel like she thinks my kids are hers …. Which is making me freak out
My in laws pick my daughter up every Friday from daycare so they can watch her and my sisters mother in law takes her 2 year old son over night most Fridays. My mind set is I want her to have a relationship with them and they enjoys taking them and i get a break. As long as you trust her to protect your babies you are good. Especially with you being a sahm. You see them plenty! Not a bad mom and if it let's you get stuff done and not be stressed that means you are a better mom when you have your kids. You just have to let the guilt go.