Hanging out with friends and our kids! Stressful or …???

Moms! I have a serious question. I have a child. My friends have children as well ( they are young). When we get together it always seems stressful. Someone is always over stimulated. Things always go south. It never really seems like a good time. Seems more stressful than fun. Is this normal??? I wonder if this puts stress on our friendship?? I’m really confused. Advice needed!!!