New OB

This is my 5th pregnancy, Third baby. My previous OB who birth my two girls, and helped me through fertility and miscarriage things closed. I’m heart broken. Mainly because I hate change, but I knew them they knew me, and I never felt shamed about weight. Ever. I gained 50lbs with my second, and occasionally I would get a (very kind might I add) reminder to keep an eye on the amount I was eating. I’m a big girl, period. Like stature. I’m 5’10, 200+lbs comfortably and built like a line backer. Stocky girl. Like I can pick up so many bags of sand lol. But regardless of build and weight they never made me feel unfit as a mother. If baby was healthy that’s all that mattered. THIS NEW PLACE THOUGH? Holy shit. Might as well had a sign around my neck that said ‘wide load’. I’ve never been double tested for glucose, especially before 20 weeks? Like I’m going in at 11 for a glucose and stress? They also sent me home with no shit a BAG of weight management while pregnant pamphlets. And three separate recommendations for dietitians in the area. I honestly thought it was a joke at first. This is the heaviest I’ve even been at the beginning of a pregnancy so maybe this is normal, but something about it is just burning me up inside. We went there to see our baby and while we did see them.. instead of leaving happy and excited im DREADING another visit. And if this happens every apt? Am I crazy? Is this just how it is and my last place was really relaxed?