How do you cope with loneliness??

I have 4 month old baby and i just feel lonely all the time. I had difficult pregnancy so i was signed off work the whole time and its now one year i’ve been staying home and although my baby keeps me busy i just feel lonely all the time. My husband works 12 hour shifts and i am the only one within my friend circle who has a child so i feel like we drifted apart as we dont have much in common anymore. Both of mine and husbands family live hours away so i dont get to see them very often. Its just me and myself all the time and now winter is approaching and i feel its going to be even worse. I miss going to work but at the same time i cant imagine being away from my baby just yet. How do you all cope with loneliness??
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Being on maternity is so lonely! It was hard last time with my oldest who is now 2. I did manage to find a couple of friends from going to groups. This time I have no one! We’ve been to all the same group but everyone’s little one is a lot oldest than her or just newborn & have formed bonds with babies the same age. When my oldest is at nursery it’s very quiet & lonely. My husband works 13 hour shifts (6-9:30 with travelling) I do still go to baby group as it’s a good way to chat with other mums even if that’s the only time I see someone all week. Is there any groups you could join? Stay & play sessions? It gets you out of the house & you may meet some people with babies of a similar age. Just know you are not alone ❤️ xx

I totally get this! I'm always here if you want to chat :) just try to enjoy these moments as they'll fly be it won't be forever xx

I think more women are lonely postpartum that we can imagine as it's rarely talked about. Everyone is trying to put on a brave face, but most Mums in our situation feel like this. We moved a week before my LG was born and we have no family in the country. My partner can't work from home, so some days I literally just talk to the LO and the dog. It's been the single most isolating experience of my life. I think a lot of parents feel that others will judge them or think they don't love their kids if they admit this

It is lonely hanging out with babies all day! Especially if you’re used to having the structure of work or study. I agree with the top comment that getting out to a few regular activities each week is really helpful if you can. It’s harder when they’re younger as things like playgroups don’t really start up till after age 1. But things like baby sensory classes (if you have the money to pay for classes) or maybe free activities at the local library (not sure what country you’re in - we have ‘baby time’ in Australia) are good. Just having a chat with adults makes such a difference. If you can find someone you click with on here to get as coffee with that can be really nice. I find that if I spend more than 2 days at home by myself I start to really feel it, so I try to preempt that and arrange to do something. Even just going to the local shopping centre can be a nice distraction if you have nothing else, and babies often enjoy the sensory input of being out and about. Good luck

See if there’s a mommies group meet near ur . Maybe ur local library. I’m sorry 😢 I went through this as well. It’s so hard and sad but after my baby was 9 months things got better it will get better. I felt more myself day by day . Now she’s 14m and I feel I’m almost there ☺️ there’s a light at the end of the tunnel

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