Can you say I have a massive migraine ?
I’d just say no and that you have plans and you won’t be in you don’t have to put yourself on the back burner for the sake of other people
Just suggest can’t do today we’ll have to reschedule and leave it that
Oh, I usually pull the whole we aren't going to be home that day. Then just make plans to go to the park or zoo
I like Tyra’s suggestion for the group chat but after that I’d follow up privately with your mom and tell her that she needs to check with you first before suggesting that other people can come to your house. You DO have a say, you just have to be willing to enforce it.
He message in the GC is “(my brothers name) you should go to (my name)s house with (my nephew)”