TW : abortion

Hi all! I have a 7month old who was born start of march via emergency c section, i opted against birth control due to it previously causing significant issues for me and wanted to allow my body to regulate back to normal post partum etc i have since fallen pregnant due to my partner being selfish and not respecting my wishes and am currently 6w pregnant, i am very set on terminating for many reasons but the big one being im not in a position to have a second but also the fact that BD has done NOTHING with our first at all because his name didnt end up being what BD wanted so i have lived interstate with no friends or family, just him, secluded and isolated from everyone. Being a FTM on my own doing every feed, nappy, bath etc and im not willing to put myself through it again. I just wanted to hear from mums who have terminated surgically, what is recovery like etc? BD is not supportive of the termination and will not support me afterwards either so im just hoping ill still be well enough to attend to my 7mo while recovering? Any advice is appreciated 💕

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I've only has the pill but I can't imagine you'll be able to take care of baby, I feel this is ne too I know I'm super Fertile but I want my cycles to naturally regulate I will say my guy was the same for a while until I stop enabling him to be an absent parent Gurl I started leaving! I'd say I'll be back in an hour or two baby ate at this time I'll feed when I'm back and leave! I'm nursing so that's why I'd say I'll feed when I get back After giving him doses of my reality he started helping so much without me asking

Is it right to say if he didn't respect your wishes he SA you? It sounds this way and you need to report that and find your feet !x

@Beth i wouldnt say it is SA i definitely was accepting of the intimacy. But he just simply chooses to be lazy and not pull out etc so just selfishness really.

@Priscilla sadly leaving changes nothing. I went to leave. I packed everything and left and it only made him breakdown. He hasnt changed his ways what so ever, i am so controlled and manipulated. Not allowed to visit my family. I have friends who havent even met my son. And my family arent allowed at my house because he “ hates them too” he has just truly isolated me and made sure i have nothing that i solely own so he is depended on.

Not leaving for good lol leave to have time for yourself and make him have to take care of the children

@Priscilla not allowed that either because “ fuel costs money” and im a SAHM so im pretty much allowed to do groceries thats it before its an issue. I leave on a monday. With bub for shopping. Thats it. Otherwise im home. All day everyday while he works

Go grocery shopping only when he's home, start working out only when he's home just go for a walk no has there lol