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All I can say is that god bless you 🙏🙏

For me it was managing the little fires until I could get a good routine. I also recommend using AI to generate a schedule and you can tweak as needed to what is possible for you to do. I use ChatGPT

I say prioritize your schedule around the toddler’s routine. It will help manage the meltdowns, a lot less of them. While the weather is good, get outside. That helps lessen the toddler energy so nap and bedtime are easier. Wear the baby often. It’ll keep your hands free and make it easier to chase the toddler. Pick your battles because the toddler will test you but not everything is worth standing your ground. Expect that there will be times when both are crying at the same time. It’ll be stressful but it’ll pass. Every day will bring a new adventure but it gets easier. Test drive things while MIL is around. Do a day here or there, where you try things alone but she’s there when you get overwhelmed

Make the most of the help while you have it. If your MIL can take the baby for a walk or your toddler while you get jobs done or have a nap. I found it so overwhelming the first few weeks and was like how am I ever going to do this but around 7/8 weeks I started to be more confident at heading out of the house with them both and that changed everything. I found local play groups in the mornings and that gets us out of the house for a couple of hours and keeps my toddler easily entertained. It’s hard getting my baby to nap while my toddler is awake so I find the car and pram an easier option. You’ll feel overwhelmed right now but you’ll suddenly just turn a corner x

My children are 13 months apart and the first 3 months was hard, barely sleeping etc. try and get the toddler involved in little tasks eg when changing baby's nappy. Also get your MIL to help you with either one or both. My mum helped me a lot with my baby while I spent time with my toddler. Eventually you will have a routine for both. Lastly forget the house work x