Toddler turning 2

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My son is almost two years old as well and I feel you on how bad they get but I’m pretty patient with him even though it can be tough and difficult to raise our sons at this time. I say take your time with him and pay attention to what his needs are. I’m also just a first time mom so I would have to say we’re all figuring it out as we go in our motherhood. Hope that helps! Thank you so much for posting!

Mine is about to be 2 as well. Same with not wanting to listen, but he just uses his selective hearing skills—and they are VERY good! lol we just honestly have to put ourselves in their shoes. If we were their age, how would we feel if we had someone getting mad at us, rushing and us not being able to comprehend much of it? We, as adults, want people to be patient with us on certain things…keep that in mind. They’re just versions of us, still people. When my daughter turned 2, she was sick, also had a newborn baby brother born 3 days after that—I will say 3’s are 2’s on steroids. She’ll be 4 next month and he’ll be 2 in dec. baby brother will be 1 in a week and a half. Y’all pray for me! 😂

I'm sorry, but it only gets worse. My little boy is 2 & a half. They like to test boundaries. All you can do is try & be as calm as you can.

Yes, they get worse.. I have a 5 year old who just turned 5 this month and he talks back, has an attitude like a teenager 😭 I’m now 33 weeks pregnant with baby #2 due in December and having ANOTHER BOY 😭😭

Oh lord! @Rachel @sara—yea, our almost 4 yo thinks she’s the Queen and has a 15 yr old personality, but still wants to be mamas baby

Join a gym and use exercise to get that negative energy out also must have child watch so u can workout or phone scroll in peace for an hour or two

I'm literally going through the same with my 2 yr old. The not eating sends me 🤯. But they say this is just a phase 🫠🙃

Do something just for yourself once or twice a day even if it’s while they’re asleep! A nice long shower with music then doing some skincare helps me so much! My oldest is almost two she’s picky with eating food that is touching we have to decide trust anything n everything she eats do nothing is touching at all! When she’s not listening I go over pull her to the side and say “mummy needs you to use your ears for a minute do you think you can do that for me?” I then sit her down and u say what u was trying to tell her and generally she listens to whatever I’ve said or asked sometimes we will need to try it again

Mine is 3 and we went through the very difficult twos as well 😂 there are a lot of times that you need to forgive yourself and model apologizing and just try to remember to be kind or even neutral. It is a season and it will pass, just stick with your boundaries for them and be consistent with consequences and they will eventually learn them and respect them (sometimes). I recommend reading the whole brained child for a good view on early child delevopment

Separate out what you can control (your house, the objects inside it, the schedule for the day, what food is available to eat, etc) from what you cannot (how much he eats, whether he wants to poop on the potty, how much he sleeps at nap time, what words come out of his mouth). Think of ways to set yourself up for success where you can, and learn to let the other stuff go (for today, at least). If you make a mistake, don't get hung up on it and let it turn into two, or three. Remember, your son is watching the way you treat yourself. 👀 You will save your son a lot of heartache by doing the right things for yourself right now.

All of this is good! Thank you, ladies, for validating and sharing your experiences. I've definitely taught my son to work through his big feelings. We take deep breaths, I ask him to use his words, and I let him cry it out if he needs to when he feels upset. I think I just don't have enough support. He's doing exactly what he needs to (and they for sure test boundaries), but I'm not mad at him. I'm mad at myself. And I know that's just as bad, I'm a new mom, a loss mom, a work from home mom, a mom that lives in a city that isn't home with no friends...it's just a lot.

Ima Sagittarius, so I be pissed that I feel any emotional things, lol, but maybe that's what I need to do more often. Cry... let it out. I just never feel safe long enough to do so...

Personally, I find understanding the toddler brain really useful. I love to read and YouTube is great. Sometimes I catch myself feeling so overwhelmed by her emotions, then I remember that’s exactly how she’s feeling. Taking pockets of space to myself is also a game changer. Even if it’s just an hour of running errands while she’s with my mom, I find it to be refreshing and recentering. Continuing to work on my own bullshit is also important. Nothing has showed me my own blind spots and growing edges like caring for a toddler 24/7 😅 I remind myself that she won’t ever learn to develop healthy habits and emotional control if I don’t demonstrate that for her. So tending to my needs has to be priority. I am a mess if I’m too hungry, too tired, or not asking for help when I need it. Toddlerhood has been so fun and it’s been such a joy watching her grow more into herself. I do my best to focus on that stuff too. When she’s losing her shit I just breathe and picture her smiling 😂

That's a beautiful perspective @Monique thank you for sharing this.