Help I'm so tired of it

Ok so my husband has two kids with someone else but have full custody of them an I'm a SAHM with my 1 month old I'm also breastfeeding and we live with my husband's mom an stepdad an his half sister's an here after my daughter was born being pp my MIL an SILs aswell has Step FIL have been messaging my husband behind my back telling him that the 1 year old is crying an screaming in his crib without a bottle or binky an that my Sil isn't allowed to comfort him (which my Step FIL an I spoke it was all a misunderstanding) but the thing is it was nap time plus I wouldn't ever put him to nap time without a bottle or binky that's the only way he will sleep an I was Appearantly no where to be found? Last time I left this house was my 3 week PP appointment I haven't been out of this house for anything other than doctor appointments ever since I became a SAHM about a year ago but yet it's disrespectful for me to go to my husband an or dad too vent an not come to them with issues I have with them but it's ok that they do it?? I'm at a loss here an I don't know what to do we are currently working on getting a place but last time we tried to move it was a big fight with mil an she apparently said she's Kill herself last time he tried to move out what am I supposed to do??

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Wow. I just got stuck at the threatening from your MIL. I m very sorry. She sounds toxic af. I would run out of this place asap. All the rest sounds like misunderstandings and emotional heated reactions.

If you want a divorce or broken home, then continue to live with your inlaws. No matter who nor where. No married couple should ever ever live with their inlaws. Your mil who is a woman is living with her husband. Why can't she allow another one you to live with hers. Preserve your marriage and life now and move out of your inlaw house No matter how small a place you and your husband get. Let mil do whatever she wants but stand firm on your decision because she is been selfish and totally wrong. Also it's not easy caring for a 1 month old and other kids. Y can't mil and sil help out. And why stay if they are not keen to do so. Again. NEVER LIVE WITH YOUR INLAWS

The worst mistake you can do is live with THE IN LAWS! 😭 There is always going to be drama unfortunately

Sheeeeeesh this is a lot. It sounds like the healthiest thing for you to do based on what you shared is get your own place. As far as the suicide threat, it sounds like his mom needs help from a mental health professional. I would never take any mentions of someone harming themselves lightly, but I also wonder if it could be a guilt trip manipulation tactic to get you guys to stay. As far as the rest, that’s a lot of adults in one house and thusly lots of opportunity for miscommunication. Having your husband being the middle man relaying messages back and forth isn’t helpful either. Ultimately it should go back to what’s the healthiest for you and your family unit regardless of what his extended family may feel about it. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this during your pp experience!

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