Regrets

Hi all! New here, my first post. Long story 🙈 I’ve Been married for 8 years, two children. Our relationship’s never been perfect and to be fair, I regret marrying him 😞 there are so many gaps in our marriage and I resent him for what he’s like, I’m a stay at home mum with zero support and rely on him to “help out”. He’s moody and I don’t feel much anymore. He’s trying to be intimate and I really dislike it, if I do it, it’s just for him. We argue a lot and I hate it for my children to hear that. It’s awful to say, and please try to understand what I mean, I don’t regret my second child, but I regret having her with my husband. That’s not what I ever thought I’d be going through, motherhood is hard enough doing it 24/7, quite alone , plus this stress in marriage. I’ve been thinking of leaving so many times, but I’m not brave enough to do so as I’ve got nowhere to go and would hate to break the home to my children 😞

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Wow, sounds like part of my story and almost exact situation down to the T. Was married 8 years, stay at home mom, 3 kids together, lost the spark maybe 3/ 4 years into the marriage. Did not want to have our 3rd child together at all. But love him to death. We grew into different people. I almost feel like I surpassed him on a growth level. No goals. No aspirations. I wanted more for myself and I could see it wasn’t going anywhere. Lost things in common. It happens. I left. We got divorced. I also had “nowhere” to go. And I also felt hugely guilty for “separating” our home. But I personally felt like k couldn’t be the best mom I could be for my kids because I wasn’t getting what I needed from our marriage. The help. Yes he was working, but besides monetarily o was doing EVERYTHING else on my own. So I figured, if I’m doing it all alone anyway, might as well split. You have to weight your options love and see what that looks like for you.

That's why I now do it alone. He got lazy, did nothing, it's easier knowing he's no longer around!!

Bring up your concerns to him, and who knows maybe you two have the opportunity to change things. It’ll take time. But, I’d like me, you’ve tried again and again, or just simply don’t want to, there’s always a way to make things happen if you really want it. You might be in a tough spot for a while monetarily, but things always seem to get better. You won’t stay that way forever. ❤️

@Latifah yes! Same! And now I don’t have to clean up behind him. Only my kids. Which is what I was doing anyway. lol can you imagine?! Your house being cleaner with 3 kids AFTER the divorce. The husband was the problem. 🫠 still no regrets.

@Chantel I felt like I had 2 kids. I did all his laundry, I cooked twice a day, cleaned non stop everyday as well as having a job, and being a mum. I work with kids so I never had a break from kids! Then coming home to a 25 year old who doesn't know how a mop works...... great times 😭😭🤣

I left and never looked back.

Most men are dogs anyway, if you’re ganna be with one it may as well be the father of your kids 🤷‍♀️

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