Wtf is wrong with men?!

Dude I’m fucking sick of this shit. He has no understanding of how hard this shit is. I have two step kids (full time) and a baby and I’m fucking drowning. And he just makes it worse!! He doesn’t understand the mental load and stress and anxiety of this load and either he says some insensitive ass shit that triggers me or I try to express my feelings and he just responds defensively every fucking time!!! No matter how much I tell him about himfuckingself. UGH I’m ready to just fucking scream and rip my hair out. THIS IS TOO MUCH FOR ME AND I HAVE NO SUPPORT IN THAT. I hate this life. I want to leave and be alone with my baby. My step kids are draining and have so much trauma that I have to work them through all the time. It’s so much on me. I’m being more of a mother than their own mother. And with a three month old. And I’m tired of giving him his praise for taking on so many responsibilities for his kids and cleaning the paying for every thing. When he doesn’t meet my needs emotionally. He’s a good man in other ways but I need so much more!! I’m loosing my mind here and I feel so alone in that.

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I would look into counseling for yourself and your SO as well as plan a trip for just you and the little one to give yourself a break!

@Merrie taking a trip sounds like a good idea.. I’m gonna see if there’s something I can do that’s low cost bc I’m trying to save but yet I spend a lot bc I struggle with asking for stuff especially bc he pays for all the house bills and groceries… and as far as counseling I think at this point it’s a must or this relationship is going to completely ruin my mental health.. I’m looking into it and I’ve just asked my therapist if her office has a couples therapist. Thank you for the advice

This makes me so nervous for getting custody of my boyfriend’s kids. We’re planning on having a new baby next year and I know I’m going to be totally drained. Having a new baby is so tiring and it’s hard on your brain. Schedule a few date nights and get out of the house with him. You’ll just have to focus on each other and remind him what your emotional needs are. I reward mine with sex and he’s really good about meeting my emotional needs now. Try to wait it out. The emotional toll of having a new baby will lessen over the next year. I’m sorry it’s so long, but it will improve.

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