SO overwhelmed🤦🏻‍♀️🤬 🫨

Im so annoyed that me and my husband cant see eye to eye anymore. I work from home/am self employed (even before covid)…. But still the workload at home is insane. I live in a house with 4 bedrooms 3 bathrooms 2 living rooms. I have two young kids and pregnant with my third. My husband helps w almost nothing @ home because his logic is hes tired/ we can get a cleaner. We had/have a cleaning lady but I feel bad paying for it (it adds up!) when instead if everyone did their fair share I wouldnt need a cleaning lady. Also this house I dont wanna live here and are talking Bout moving (too much to manage wth!) he never has time to talk because after work he is always UNWINDING…. Some days he gets up at 4 am… sometimes 8… which I am thankful for but all he does is UNWIND EVERY SINGLE DAY from 4pm-9pm and just doom scrolls… I used to be so fun and positive but now Ive turned into that nagging wife and ABSOLUTELY HATE THAT. I’m only 30 FFS! Anyone else???!! This is not “normal”

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I had the exact same. Maybe it’ll help if you sat down and told him exactly how you’re feeling. Say “you’ll sit and listen to me or else” and lay out how you’re feeling and what you want to change. It may help if you ask him to do the same as he may be struggling with something and isn’t communicating so that’s why he isn’t helping. Honesty is so important. If he doesn’t listen then just explain that you can do it yourself if he doesn’t step up. I find that men start to feel comfortable and that they don’t have to work hard as they already have a baby with you so they are safe staying with you, if that makes sense. Not sure if this is making any sense but I hope so 😂

Almost word for word how I feel lately. IM EXHAUSTED. I have a constant to-do list that never ends just piles up more and more. My house isn’t even managed anymore because I’m so overwhelmed, I’ve asked my partner SO many times for help and still nothing. I have to practically beg him to do something so small in comparison to EVERYTHING I do. I’m about to just give up and go into paralysis in all areas of my life because I feel like I’m just drowning barely surviving at this point.

I feel the same way and it drives me off the edge when he can clearly see me doing household chores while he “doom scrolls” (FYI, LOVED THAT NAME) and it pisses me off so much, like I want to be relaxing and “unwinding” too but never can because of the never ending shit that needs to be done.