Idk what else to do…….

This is the 3rd time we may possibly face eviction because my husband is slowly tapping out and not providing as before. I get it, he is tired but right now he is all we have. He used to be so good at providing and working and as the years have passed, the toll of work has physically and mentally began to kick in and wear him out. Now he doesn’t want to work and he just wants to sleep. I’m actively looking for a job again to work from home with our two littles just to catch us up. I took it upon myself to also apply to different jobs for him since the one he has now is draining him even more with the odd he works hours. Yesterday he was called in at 10 got out at 3 and got called back in at 7 and didn’t get home till almost 3 in the morning. It’s a demanding and tiring job so I don’t blame him on not wanting to work. But we are slowly going back into debt on top of the debt we already have. So I applied to different jobs for him with less demanding hours and more pay. He was actually getting call backs to schedule an interview but he’s not taking them. One even offers relocation assistance and they want him but he’s so hesitant and procrastinating on calling them back. I told him we need a new start because we are not getting ANYWHERE here where we are. We have also talked about this MULTIPLE times before in which he said if the opportunity is ever there, he will take it. Well……. It’s here! They’re calling him!! But he’s NOT taking it! And I’m so overwhelmed having to depend on him to get us out of the trenches he put us in. Today, before he left for work again, he woke up and asked what I was doing. I told him applying for jobs for myself… then before he leaves he says “get up and lock the door and actually do something instead of just sitting there!” I told him to gtfo and leave cause I’m not doing any of the things he’s saying. He’s projecting and taking things out on me when all I’m trying and have BEEN trying to do is help! And it’s not like “we have to cut down on expenses” because we LITERALLY don’t do anything! We’re HOME ALL DAY EVERYDAY! We have no life… and it’s heartbreaking. I’ve been applying for wfh jobs that will work with my and my kids schedules. I cook, clean and do everything I should on my end but I feel like it isn’t enough and he wants more! Idk what more he fucking wants from me though! But I’m desperate now cause I’m SOOOOO TIRED OF THIS LIFESTYLE!!!!!!!! He wasn’t like this before but as time has passed he’s become more angrier and dismissive of everything and seems to not care that we are facing difficulties again. I know he’s exhausted and tired but right now, we have no choice but to keep going. We have bills and kids to provide for. And the last things the light and water company are going to care about is how “tired” he is. Idk why I’m posting this either…. I guess venting? Idk. But I’m tired of struggling too :( this isn’t the lifestyle I pictured or wanted. And I’m trying to make changes to change that. Exhausted mom
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Reading this really broke my heart. Im so sorry you’re going through this. He is clearly burnt out and you are very much needed to do all the labour at home that no one pays a dime for! both your contributions are important so it wasn’t fair for him to say that - I think he was just angry. Would getting a close trusted friend/family member to make him see the urgency in your situation, help to make him take those calls? X

@Immy we literally have family down the street but they do not help nor visit…. They do not care. I think this is why he’s also so angry. He has been having to provide for himself since he was younger and he’s full of trust issues and resentment towards certain family members. The “hustle and grind” has always been him fighting with himself. And now that he has a family, it’s such a bigger fight.😔 you would think after the 1st two times we have faced this he would take it more seriously, but I really feel he has given up and is taking the punches life has thrown at him vs fighting. And Idk how to help 😞

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