Restoring Romance in long term relationship
My husband and I have been together since we were 18. We are 27 now, married 4 years, we have a 2 1/2 year old and another baby on the way. Both of our pregnancies have been planned- but now my husband says there is no romance in our marriage. Amongst other things- like me needing control over decisions. I’ve started therapy in the last month to go over some childhood trauma that leads to my need to find control and stability. And our communication has improved dramatically. But he doesn’t have romantic love for me anymore. I’m not willing to lose my family and the man I love. My question to you is: What can I do to create romance for a man? For me he could come home with a snack I like and I’d be excited about it for a week. But I just don’t know what would be considered a romantic gesture to him without it coming off as forced. Those of you who are still holding hands, cuddling at night and laughing at your man’s jokes, I’m turning to you! Help a girl out ♥️
The best advice I was ever given was to be the opposite of their day. For example, if it was raining and cold outside, when they get home have a heated blanket and bowl of soup ready for them. If they had a hard day at work and their body is sore, prepare a hot bath and glass of their favorite drink. Of course it varies in different relationships, I don’t know how you all work as a couple but it’s a good sign that he came to you with this. He clearly wants to work on it otherwise he probably wouldn’t have told you. Both parties need to make an effort for a relationship to last. Doing little acts of service even just once in a while makes a huge difference. If that doesn’t work, I would try reading into love languages and figuring out which one is his, you can find ideas online on things you can do with each specific love language. I hope this helps! Wishing you and your family the best through these tough times.