Getting pregnant after infant loss

Our girl died at 4 months, April 20, 2023; after 2.5 months of life support after her heart surgery, she took a turn when she got back to her cicu room. 2 days before she we were told "theres nothing else anyone can do. We've already called other hospitals and gotten their opinions as well". I signed her papers to take it away, my husband held her, and both of out families came down that day to say good-bye, as well as her older brothers. I found out i was pregnant with their younger brother on December 7, 2023, 14 days before her first birthday. My pregnancy with him was rough. She was high risk, we knew everything she had wrong at 26 weeks, her Down Syndrome and 3 heart defects. I was EXTREAMLY paranoid knowing what happened to her and knowing that since her and her younger brother are the only full siblings out of the 4, that he was a high risk of having the same issues. He ended up being completely healthy and born on August 5, 2024, and im not gonna lie, im still very cautious after what happened.

I actually just went through this myself.. my son was stillborn at 37weeks and zero explanation as to why..he was perfectly healthy the entire pregnancy..I then found out I was pregnant again after just 4 months..it’s definitely a roller coaster at first, I was also still heavily grieving and definitely did not feel ready to go through being pregnant again so soon..took a few months to accept everything and definitely a lot of emotional days.. but with the timing of it all it felt like it was a gift and a message from my son saying that everything was going to be okay and he wanted us to be happy again..thinking about it like that helped me a lot ..fast forward to now, we have a beautiful baby girl who is 6.5weeks old and thriving…we were monitored a lot closer during her pregnancy which helped ease our anxiety a lot, especially towards the end..if you ever want to talk or have any questions feel free to reach out ❤️ congratulations on your rainbow baby 🌈💕

I had to find many things to keep the worry off my mind, I taught myself how to crochet while she was in the hospital and I picked it up more while I was pregnant with him, it kept my mind and hands busy, not to mention my oldest who was 3/4 my pregnancy though-out youngest. It's definitely rough, and if you need/want someone to talk to momma, im always here, and you're more than welcome to message me💜 congratulations on your rainbow and prayers that it's healthy and happy, and a safe delivery for you both!

@Jocelyn I’m so sorry for your loss. I think even when you anticipate something being wrong it NEVER gets easier. 💔 I also found out exactly 14 days before her 1st birthday 😢 Hugs xxx

@jackie I’m so sorry for your loss! I love to hear she is thriving, I relate w feeling like it’s a message. Our angel babies definitely picked our earth side baby. 🫶🏻 I’m here if you ever need the same too! Thank you

@Zoë we knew we were going to have to bury her at somepoint, i just don't think we anticipated having to as early as we did; and my husband and I both agree to that topic still. We have most of her funeral arrangements made before she was even born just incase, so we just had final touches when she actually passed. Many hugs momma, you and your baby got this, I mean it, you're more than welcome to message/wave if you need

@Jocelyn I couldn’t imagine how you felt. It’s admiring honestly, no matter how much time you have it outweighs the death. I would relive the day she passed every single day just to have 10 minutes with her.

Hello Zoë, I’m sending lots of love your way and I’m so sorry you had to live through such a loss. My little boy passed away at one month old in 2023 and I’m currently at the end of my ´ rainbow pregnancy ´ which has been really emotionally heavy. I found helpful to receive external help, and did some EMDR therapy which I recommend as well as talking therapy. It took a while through grief to realise I needed to prioritise my mental health but it has been super important. I would say also establishing firm boundaries from people who don’t make you feel good can be very helpful. Pregnancy is intense, especially so in our circumstances so really take care of yourself, whatever that feels like for you. Here if you ever want to chat xxx

Hello, I lost my girl following a TFMR and got pregnant after only 2.5 months. I had difficulty to deal with the pregnancy at the beginning specially when I reached the month I lost my first girl. But the hospital provided support to me with a bereavement midwife. (I don’t know if all hospital do that but can be worth to try with your hospital). It did help me. I will never forget my first child and I actually included her in our family. I talked often to my baby about her big sister. It really helps me to talk about her. All pregnancy is different and I make a difference on this two pregnancies. As my two babies are unique. I also believe of signs so I always thought this second pregnancy is my older girl who send it to me. Also remembered there is up and down and it is normal to feel sad (there will be some days I am very sad but then I try to do activities which cheer me up. Take it easy and I am sorry for your loss.