Marriage conflicts

Pregnancy and the 4th trimester can be very trying on a relationship because there’s so many stages that we go through, a man has to be willing to tough it out and support his partner through all the emotional and physical changes. It takes patience, understanding, and a willingness to step up as both a partner and a parent. It’s a period where love and resilience are truly tested, but also where bonds can grow stronger if both people are committed to navigating the ups and downs together.

Assuming this is your first child? My son is 16 months old and that newborn stage has you questioning literally everything including your will to live. I’ve been friends with my boyfriend for 11 years and we’ve been dating for a little over 2, live together and everything and I was so sure he was the one for me. Well… I HATED him until my son was probably 3 months old. I resented him, I knew we’d never work out, we were such different people and that feeling just continued to escalate. Every night he didn’t wake up, every time he didn’t help me with something, every time he complained about how tired HE was, just made my blood boil. I was questioning our compatibility bc he was lazy and oblivious and he was probably questioning it as well and just never told me. (1/2)

They say a majority of separations/divorces happen within the first year of a baby’s life for a reason. It’s hard. HARD. Both of yall just really have to push through, support each other, and just give it time. I absolutely adore my boyfriend. I’m more in love with him than I’ve ever been. Most couples go through that stage. If you need to talk/vent, feel free to message me. You got this mama, we’re tough. Wayyyy tougher than we give ourselves credit for❤️❤️

AND please don’t try to pour from an empty cup. Obviously I don’t know y’all’s situation but most men don’t step up if they feel disconnected from mama/baby. It took those first 3-4 months for my bf to build that bond with our son. He said he never heard him cry once when he was a newborn and I truly think it’s bc we have almost a year to grow and nourish our babies so we already have that instinct when they’re born. Men don’t so it may take a while for him to build that connection which will in turn, make your marriage and bond so much stronger. Don’t kill yourself trying to do everything for everybody, constantly supporting him while waiting for him to come around. Have some conversations, figure out where yall are but take care of yourself and that little baby. Yalls health are what matter most.