Bit deep?🙃

This might be a bit deep for a Tuesday evening🙃 However I have a newly turned one year old. He’s great and he sleeps and eats great I can’t fault him. Me on the other hand, since he’s turned one I just feel like mentally I’ve hit a brick wall. I’m constantly exhausted. I’m snappy and every little thing my partner does bothers me. The dog annoys me. I get frustrated at the smallest things. I don’t enjoy things anymore like going out for food, shopping or being around people. I don’t even like cooking anymore so all we eat is stuff from the freezer. We go away in December and I’m not looking forward to that either. I’ve recently gone back to work and my little boy has gone to nursery. I’ve taken a £20,000 a year pay cut to work part time closer to home and I miss spending money on me, yet I feel so much guilt about not contributing towards the bills😩🥲 Is anybody else feeling like this?? I guess I just need a rant to a mum that understands 🙃😭

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It sounds like maybe you just need some time alone, peace, silence, with you and yourself only away from everything. Definitely do not feel guilty for not contributing to paying the bills because you are, just in a different way. Circumstances have changed, don't forget that. Also, talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling.

I’m really glad to have read your message because i am struggling too. I’m not as irritable but defo have been snappy towards my husband. I miss being home with our son, balancing that side, meanwhile my commute is an hour and a half some days each way. And so I leave work early then once I get home I’m in full mum mode then eventually i get to have dinner post like 8pm then i go back to work to make up the time i lose from commuting. It’s wearing me down how thinly spread I feel. My job is also rough atm and I’m trying to look for something new, closer to home also. 😮‍💨 it’s tough!!!

Honestly I don’t mean to be horrible but sharing from my own experience. When that happened to me I was low in many vitamins and iron that regulates our emotions and I was tending towards a bit of depression due to chronic bad mood. Check that, pregnancy takes a lot from us and if we don’t put it back to us then the body takes from our brain and muscles and soon we have deficiency in lots of vitamins

I feel the exact same!! It's really hard at the moment, but I'm hoping it will pass soon My husband keeps trying to give me time to myself but I end up feeling guilty and refusing, feeling like I need to be around my baby constantly even though I'm with her 24/7.

I felt like that too. Couldn't figure out what it was. Decided to go off my pill to see if that made a difference and it did. A massive one. I no longer feel like that. Before pregnancy, I was always on the progesterone only pill/ contraception. This time, it didn't agree with me I guess. The mental load slowly disappeared for me. Things didn't annoying me as much anymore, wasn't quick to anger anymore. Maybe look into that if you are on birth control

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