Feeling guilty

You’re doing the best you can. It’s great that you’re going a little every day. Some parents can’t.

Some parents don’t even have the opportunity to go at all or maybe once every week and that’s just fine too. You’re doing great and your baby is in good hands with the nurses. That’s awesome you get to have a camera there. My nicu didn’t have that. You’re doing great mama.

I was in a similar position. My daughter was in the NICU from birth and I had a son at home but I was staying in the hospital and instead I felt the opposite - such guilt and judgement about not going home to see my firstborn. No matter where you are, you’ll feel guilty about the other child. You’re doing the best you can. They know it’s such a difficult situation to navigate and nobody’s judging you I promise. Sending you lots of love and wishing little one a speedy recovery so he can come home soon xxx

Who do you think is judging you? Family? Nurses? Because you are doing what you can. You can’t leave the toddler home alone. ❤️

i felt this exact way when my 34 week old preemie was born at couple months ago and was in the nicu. I would try to go 2 hours each day and leave my other 2 kids with my mom but I felt so guilty leaving my other kids for those couple hours each day because I thought I was losing time with them but in reality I wasn't I still had the rest of the day with them and had to keep telling myself that it's as if I went to the store or for an appointment for a couple hours but that I would always come back. I also felt so guilty leaving my preemie in the nicu each time I left it was just so gutrenching thinking that I was a bad mom for not spending enough time with her but like I said before I had to keep telling myself I was doing the best I could and that baby is being well cared for even when I'm not there and my other 2 kids were doing okay with my mom. so dont beat yourself up to much I know its making you feel a whole bunch of different things but just know that it's all temporary and everything will be okay.

your doing great momma!!! sending love to you and your baby I hope he gets well soon!! if you need anybody to talk to at this time feel free to message me i know how it feels like and I bet you all the moms on here know as well what your going through it's a tough journey but it will all be worth it.

Don't! I felt the SAME when my girls were there. I asked the NICU nurses about it and they said there are definitely parents that can't even make it there some days and it's normal for just a couple hours visits. Longer term NICU babies mom's have to go back to work and miss plenty of days. Lots of parents have more than 1 kid or don't have means to go back and forth (C-section moms, etc can't drive themselves for awhile). So you are NOT the only one ❤️ just be there for them as much as you can, get the rest when you can't, and just prep for when they are home!