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Who's in the wrong? My husband wants to work out at 10 pm. I put the baby down at 9 and I want some time to myself. After cooking dinner and taking care of the baby, I want some time before I have to continue and do more work around the house. He works full time and is a full time student. He choosing to work out but since I just had our child, I'm not super interested in losing weight, especially since I'm already less than my prenatal weight. Thoughts?

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I failed to mention, he makes me work out with him. If I don't, he'll just complain and whine about how I don't take care of my body or do things with him.

He absolutely should not be bitching about you not talking care of yourself. If he had serious concerns about you taking care of yourself that's different and he should sit down with you and have a calm conversation expressing his concerns. If he wants a work out buddy amd he's putting you down because you don't feel up to it that's extremely disrespectful. Why is it only your job to do things with him? You should both be making an effort to spend time with each other.

Kinda sounds like manipulation. He shouldn’t be trying to force you to do something you don’t wanna do. Yes it’s good for you but as a mom you need time for yourself otherwise you’ll start to feel resentment.

With the added context he's wrong.

Sounds like he doesn’t have his priorities set straight. You keep doing what you feel you need. You absolutely do not need to be working out after all that! That’s so icky! He should be thankful of your body for bringing your child into the world! Not making you feel like it’s not enough!

Voted neither are wrong before reading the comment. He deserves time to work out, you also deserve equal time to relax/do what you want. If you don't want to work out with him, don't, don't let him guilt you into doing it.

Is he not concerned about your mental state just physical? We all need a break and get tired. I honestly am not going to work out after putting the baby to sleep. Props to those who do it out of choice. If your already underweight your over working yourself and by relaxing you are taking care of your body.

Ooh I voted neither is wrong before seeing your comment and yea he’s wrong

Fuck working out at 10pm, I'm in my bed by then 🤣

Added context he's wrong shouldn't be forcing you to workout. My husband works out late at the gym too but I get my me time first before he goes off for few hours.

So he does work full time and is a student he too deserves time for himself. However he shouldn’t be pushing you to workout whilst you’re recovering following birth. You also deserve your time to yourself also. Maybe you guys could talk and maybe come to an agreement that he works out every other night during the week then you have the other nights in between to yourself? And maybe agree to do something like a date night once a month or something? Communication is key in any relationship! Happy parents = happy kids 🩷

You have to communicate your needs for down time

I am all for working out and being healthier, but a 10:00pm workout sounds horrible 😂 In all seriousness, he needs to get over it. If he wants to workout at that time, great, but he shouldn’t guilt you into doing it.

I was gunna say I don’t see anything wrong til you said he makes you too tf say no girl, tell him to quit whining over your choice if he wants to workout that’s fine if you don’t want to that’s fine he can buzz off.

I workout after I put down the kids at 730/830 and finish cleaning up, tonight I plan to do my nails after imma be busy til 12😂💅