I just can’t do it anymore 😞
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Do you have any family you could stay with? I really think you should leave before your next baby arrives. Get settled somewhere else. Is he an involved dad?
he's a narcissist. a lot of people don't show these trades until kids are here. my husband was the same. I kicked him out so he would see what life is like without us bur having double bills to pay- told him if he wants back home he needs serious help. he went to anger management and we did couples therapy. for 3 years I was completely misread and now finally after about 8 months of hard work it's getting better. anyone who is willing to can change. I suggest you do something similar as scary as it can be you don't deserve this and he won't get better if you don't put your foot down. 💓💓💓💓
always remember actions speak louder then words.
You start making a plan to leave and you stick to it. It’s not going to happen over night. You will have to sacrifice short term happiness for long term happiness. Stay with him until you figure it out and fake it til you make it gf. It’s gonna be hard mentally but then you will be set free. Start gathering evidence for court as well.
@Lyss this is what I’m currently planning it’s just hard financially. I only make like $17 an hour and live in California
@Ella I have family out of the state but I can’t leave oos bc my insurance won’t cover me and the baby in another state. I have my mom here but she has a rlly small 1 bedroom apartment and she works from home so she’s home all day everyday in the living room. I don’t wanna bother her or interfere with her job especially with a toddler and a newborn
@Vanessa he’s not willing to do therapy. He doesn’t wanna change. I’ve already suggested that in the past and yea it’s been a while but I don’t think his mind has changed. He’ll say one day he doesn’t care about the relationship and doesn’t love me in a romantic way then change his mind the next day. And I can’t kick him out his name is on the lease so I’d have to leave
@Jam this is what I’ve been doing for the past week and it’s extremely hard but I’m trying. I just don’t know how I’m gonna afford a new place
Can't you move in with family interstate and start over? Get different insurance? California is so expensive.
@Ella I’ve thought about this. But if he decides to file for custody or joint custody I’d have to come back
Do you think he will?
Is there any family you can live with until you get on your feet? Someone’s basement perhaps?
@Ella tbh I don’t think he’s smart enough to do all that the worst he’ll do is talk shit about me to everyone to make himself feel better but then again he’s always taking the wrong advice from ppl so idk
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Well, if I were you, I'd move ☺️
Sounds like another narcissistic man and he won’t change. You need to start planning on how to leave I know it’s not immediate but be smart about it and don’t tell him your plan until you are out with your kids somewhere safe.