Am I in the wrong?

tonight was my night to do bedtime and put our daughter to sleep, we made a deal to alternate it between husband and I I had a very challenged day with my daughter today and felt overwhelmed with my emotions and it clearly showed, when I had it up to here with our daughter and to top it all off she just wouldn’t go to sleep, I came to my husband who was deep into his video games to help me out and take on the bedtime role for tonight and mentioned I’ll do two nights in a row if he helps out tonight. Anyway he didn’t seem too happy and kept saying “it’s your night, deal with it”. In the end he did it but only because I had to sit there and REALLY expressed how I was feeling today and I really just needed to be away from our daughter. I’m now even second guessing myself, should I have asked him on his night off? (I never had to before but today was extremely hard for me) should I have sucked it up and dealt with it? I know for a fact I would’ve happily took over if he was having a hard day and needed time out. Today I needed time out and despite how I was feeling and how much I needed help he didn’t seem too happy about it even though I said I owed him. Maybe I sprung it on him too last minute I don’t know but I can’t help how I feel. I feel like I should be able to rely on my partner if I can’t give 100%. My mental health is up and down. Today I couldn’t give 100% and when I asked for help he wasn’t happy just because “it’s my night” and it made me feel awful.

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Oh you poor thing. No your not in the wrong for asking for help, we all have bad days. I felt the same when I first I my little man, I was struggling and didn't feel like I could ask my partner for help. But there's nothing wrong with asking. He shouldn't of got so stroppy about it, she's also his responsibility. I hope your okay xx

No, you should be able to ask for help if you need it & shouldn't be made to feel like you shouldn't reach out.

Team work makes the dream work and if he can’t step up and step in when your needing help then I would 100% be having a sit down chat about the support he’s providing you and your child with

It's definitely a good idea to ask for help. As long as it's not a patter of one of you doing more than the other, I can't see why it would be an issue going forward. It's most likely he was angry at the situation and wanted to game, instead of being angry at you.

Nope you should never feel bad for asking for help on a child you both brought into the world. My daughter has recently become like this and will only sleep if she's on me or rocking her to sleep I go to hand her to her dad and she will have a right melt down. Even as a mum we need a break every now and then. If we're not feeling top form, kids pick up on it.. Hopefully you can both sit down and speak openly with one another. I hopw your okay. Xx

Absolutely not in the wrong. Ask your partner to please be understanding and flexible and if/when he’s struggling you’d be there to swap

Ofc you should be able to ask the other parent for help when you're struggling!

You are a team! When someone can’t give their 100% .. the other person picks up the difference. That’s how good partnerships work. DO NOT doubt yourself. You asked for help cause you needed it, not because you were trying to make his life hard. Normalise this in your mind and house. Xx

You’re not in the wrong but he probably reacted that way in hope you would give give in and say don’t worry you will just do it, express how his reaction made you feel and say you asked for help for a reason… he does owe u an apology, express that if roles were reversed you would have been happy to jump in a help xx communication is key x

You shouldn’t have to ask!!

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