My parents-in-law are Alcoholics.
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It really would be his role to say something. That would be the first step. For him to put his foot down with them. I wouldn’t be putting up with that either.
Tell him you are uncomfortable with them being drunk around your children
@Claire i already try It thousands of times , He say that he dont really see the problem and I Feel uncomfortable, I need to say It to them
Pray about & then be firm with your decision respectfully to your husband! Tell him your honest truth that you don’t feel safe with them around your child and unless they are drinking then it’s a no!
Maybe you should try to be brave and have the conversation with his parents and ask him to support you during that conversation
@Marinela apart from the drinking (which is bad) what do they do that’s rude/ bad manners? Could you share some specific examples with him about what you’ve found unacceptable? If your husband’s grown up around them like this and isn’t there to witness it maybe he doesn’t realise how bad they are.
Are they British? Drinking a couple of litres of beer a day on holiday isn’t alcoholism 😂 sounds like a clash in cultures
@Kim 3 litres each, a day? That’s definitely alcoholism and that’s coming from a Scot
@Rebecca that’s like 5 pints a day for a week?
@Kim she also said “for lunch” so assume there’s more. But there’s no need to have 35 pints in a week
@Rebecca some people like to drink on their holidays? Either way, it’s not alcoholism it’s binge drinking.
@Kim they might not be alcoholics but seems rude to get really drunk every day at lunchtime, then continuing to be drunk the whole time you’re there to spend time with grandkids (who are at school most of the time anyways!) I think a holiday is a bit different than going to stay with family abroad for a week. You’re in someone’s home and it’s tedious dealing with drunk in laws all week! Maybe they think they’re doing a favour getting out of the way for a few hours 🤷🏽♀️ but it’s clearly not appreciated
Hello everyone, thanks for your advice. 🙏🏼 My husband and I had a serious discussion because as some of you say, my husband grew up in an environment where seeing your parents falling asleep drinking every night was normal. He was talking to his psychologist and they have come to the conclusion that I am right and that my husband should talk to his parents about his alcoholism. Not only for my discomfort and for the children, but also to heal some traumas from his childhood. It's a big step for him but he still doesn't feel ready for this conversation.
For those of you who ask me, they are from the Netherlands, where 47% of the population drinks every day and I am Spaniard, where only 6% of the population drinks every day. Yes, it may seem like a culture shock because for us it is strange to be drunk on a Wednesday.
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But my in-laws drink a lot! It's just that he spends the week at home drinking, now they are retired, but when my father-in-law worked, he would come home at 6:00 p.m. and the first thing they would do was open 2 or 3 cans of beer of 500 ml each. Then if anything they had something to eat and continued drinking. And for me the fact that they are drunk is worrying, but the effects of alcohol continue even if they are sober. They have mental clumsiness, they are not able to think complex tasks such as "I go to this place, pick up the dry cleaning, go to the supermarket and buy milk and bread, go home and pack the groceries and make dinner." If they have to do that they forget half the things and end up having fries for dinner. They have outbreaks of anger, shout or start insulting or being disrespectful, for no specific reason.
For me it is tremendously hard because I have never had an alcoholic person in my family and we are very close by culture. For me it is normal to talk to my mother every day and eat with all my cousins and uncles on Sundays. But I can't take my in-laws to eat at my relatives' house because they are like weird teenagers, they behave badly and on top of that they are arrogant because they do everything better. But the most worrying thing is the example they set for my children. I don't want my children to grow up with people like that or think that having that addiction to beer is normal.
@Marinela im glad you that you and your husband have managed to have a discussion🙏 it sounds like a step in the right direction, im sure its not going to be easy but it will sure be worth it in the end, best of luck to you and your family ❤️
@Claire thank you ❤️
if your husband ain’t listening and you’ve had that convo with him then just replace him.