Separation anxiety
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We’re about 3 months into separation anxiety so I can definitely understand how you feel. We went from a perfectly self soothed, independent sleeper to a hardcore cosleeper. The irony, I used to dream of contact naps! For us, I’ve accepted this phase isn’t moving on anytime soon so I’ve tried to change my perspective. Admittedly, my son is very attached to his Dad, baby is obsessed with him! Instead of us fighting it and making it harder for everyone we’ve just gone with it, we laugh about it and actually I feel very blessed baby is so secure at home. It has caused challenges out the house (eg settling with other family members, nursery) but I can’t change how LO feels so we’re rolling with it best we can 🥹
Thanks both, helpful insights. I’ve tried to just lean into it since writing this post and I’ll carry on doing this. Hopefully he’ll begin to understand I’m not going anywhere! His night sleep hasn’t been too bad, but I’m back to being nap trapped for 2 hours a day again. Will he sleep at nursery do you think? I’m a bit worried about that
My baby sleeps better for them at nursery than me does at home 😅 at home we contact nap or rock or feed to sleep and transfer at nursery he lays down in the cot and goes to sleep! I couldn’t believe it x
@Yasmin gosh I could not imagine him doing that! I’ll keep my fingers crossed!
The best way to help separation anxiety is to respond to your baby. It’s really tough but like everything it’s just a phase. They have to understand that when they need you you’ll come/ be there but that’s a process and takes time. Starting nursery did really ramp up the separation anxiety for us but 4 weeks in he’s really settled at nursery and things have calmed down at home. But we initially went back to hourly or less waking every night - I picked him up everytime he cried etc and now we’re back to much more normal sleep (which still isn’t great 😂 but better than every hour) x