Am I wrong ?

I know I’m going to get some negative feedback from this post calling me “lazy or dirty” which is fine because I know I’m not and would never allow me and my children to live in filth , My s/o is very lazy does not like to clean he is quick to make messes but doesn’t think twice about cleaning up we used to get in very bad arguments and fights because of it I use to clean our house top from bottom I’m talking DEEP CLEAN EVERYDAY we both work full time he covers the bills in the house/some house hold needs and I cover me & my kids expenses ( clothes , shoes , money for school & I also buy all the food for the house ) I will ask him to clean up something he will ignore me or do it days later smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ he decided to cook dinner on Saturday today is Wednesday and there is still dishes in the sink I know some of you would say why don’t you just clean it ? Because he is a fully caple grown man who should clean up after himself . I went to my moms yesterday just so I can cook because I was not going to come home from working a full shift plus picking up my kids clean the entire house and then make dinner plus get them ready for bed he sat at home while I was gone and made he sure he showered straighten up a bit but did not clean his mess up in the kitchen I try to avoid arguing especially infront of our kids or I will just clean up so I can cook I’m honestly burnt out and tired it’s depressing being the only parent who does everything even tho I don’t pay bills in the house cleaning shouldn’t be a gender role and shouldn’t cause a fight & please don’t come on here saying “Men don’t clean” that is not true my brothers are very clean and do not play and when I ask him to clean up I’m not saying just right up and do it now but please don’t wait hours later to finally clean up cause by then I don’t want to cook I like get dinner done before 9pm me and my kids are on a time schedule and I feel like he does not care or respect that I shouldn’t have to cook somewhere else to feed my children when I have a stove and full kitchen to cook in